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Wow - even if spring dates fill up quickly, that's just being too on the ball.
And about the whole not telling him thing - if he proposes he'll find out anyway when she has to tell him the date, venue, etc. are already set. How does she plan on hiding that? Poor guy doesn't get to have any say.
LOL - I know! I was pretty shocked. I wonder how well I kept a straight face. I wonder if she will bring him back here and have me pretend we've never met. Ha! I love my job!
OMG!! I cant believe they took pre-proposal so far! Ok I will admit it that once my FI mentioned in front of my mom that we were going to get married. He didnt say when of course well my mom just took it and ran with it and started talking about wedding planning. We went dress shopping I of course just wanted to try on dresses to see what I liked but she wanted to purchase one. I had to bring her back to reality there wasnt a proposal out there! Yea I definitely would kinda wonder about this one and if this event will actually happen!
I agree with you, what you described sounds pretty weird! I don't think that girls should be secretly planning their wedding prior to being proposed to. It's also a lot fo money to be buying a dress and booking venues when the guy hasn't even popped the question! I do admit that I looked at some venues online prior to being engaged, but nothing like this.
The other thing that bothered me about your story is that he boyfriend will apparently have no say in the wedding plans. FI and I have decided on everything together-from date to venue, to food etc... It's his wedding too!
I can understand if a couple is not officially engaged, but are making preliminary plans together.
I am not meaning to offend anyone, but you have to wonder with girls like this if they are really focused on their future hubby or a gorgeous wedding.
Yikes, the BF didn't even know about all this? THAT'S what irks me about this whole thing. Like, I'm totally okay with couples planning their wedding before an official engagement. Sometimes it just works better for them. But to not even include the BF? Weird.
what if he doesn't like the place, has a family member's birthday with that date so he doesn't want to have it then or another conflict? my fi wanted to be included with the big things like that, plus he would have been really weirded out to find out that our whole wedding was planning before we got engaged. i hope she actually does get the proposal!
lol - you'll have to update us on this one and let us know how good of an actress you are if she does ask you to pretend.
I would definitely agree that even if he does propose once he finds out the wedding is already planned he might want to take back that proposal! How weird! And what a huge secret to hold talk about some serious resentment if it doesnt play out like she wants it too!
I was trying to think of the expression earlier, but I think we can call this putting the horse before the cart!
If by chance they do come back, and the groom still doesn't know, there is no way I can keep a straight face. I can just see myself mentioning her colors, etc. I am NOT a good actress. I may have my assistant talk to them if they come back :P
Wow! That's some pre-planning! Well I hope for her sake that it works out. Before FH and I officially got engaged I had to stop him from making comedy holes in the wall whenever my friends mentioned us getting married. I think if he were the bf that he would run for the hills!
Yeah, she sounds a little nutso. It's one thing to plan WITH your man before you get "officially engaged." That is a stupid term and I'm so totally over hearing it used because what is an "official proposal" really - you don't need a ring to be engaged people. Anyway, different rant. It sounds like this guy doesn't have any clue as to what is going on and that is not cool. I had my venue and date booked before I got my ring, but FI was involved in every part of that. Sounds like this girl is setting herself up for a bigtime letdown.
This story makes me extremely sad for the BF (aka future groom even though he doesn't know it yet). I agree preplanning with the SO can be fun and can prepare you for costs etc...but to book half a wedding without an "official" engagement is beyond me.
My concern is what if the "Chad" really had no intention of proposing? Speaking from personal experience, I know my FI had dropped hints that we would marry someday but the engagement didn't happen until immediately.
Do keep us up to date with this one.
@jaylii: I was thinking the same thing about being more concerned about wedding and not the marriage.
ha ha ha ha PLEASE keep us poset on how this goes! That poor guy! You can't start planning concrete things until you both are on the ball!!! That being said, maybe she found a ring and doesnt want him to know that she knows....
Heee, this reminds me of that episode of Friends where Monica books a venue for her and Chandler's wedding, since the waiting list is like 3 years long, thinking that maybe by then they'll be engaged and of course not telling Chandler anything about it. And then later on when Chandler is alone in the apartment there's a phone call from the wedding venue to let them know that there was a cancelation and that if they want to have the Bing-Geller wedding moved up they now have a date available for that. Chandler totally freaked out, lol!
I could see if chad new about all this stuff , but he dosn't which is scay. I wonder how freaked out he will be when he finds out she has the whole wedding planned before he pops the question.
WOW! That's hilarious. Like other Bees, I feel so bad for the BF! Mr. TKE is sitting right next to me and he's laughing, but at the same time he's calling the BF and idiot for wanting to be with that 'chick'. Not my words, but I'm not going to correct him either.
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I just had to share this story with you ladies...
Right before I left work yesterday, I got a call from the front desk that somebody was interested in discussing a wedding reception. I work in sales at a hotel, and part of my job is booking events and giving tours. No big deal, I went up and it was a girl and her mom.
We sat down and starting discussing dates, etc. She was looking for something in the spring of 2011 - I told her what dates we had available. I took them to the ballroom, and they were discussing color schemes, chair covers, meals, etc. The bride mentioned that she was having 6 bridesmaids, and had already decided on centerpieces, dresses, etc. She had also bought her dress. I commented on how on the ball she was!
I then asked how long she had been engaged - her mom said that she wasn't engaged yet, but would be soon. She knew how fast spring dates filled up. Okay, no big deal, every once in a while I see couples who are pre-proposal. The bride then told her mom not to tell "Chad" that she was here, as he was unaware of ANY wedding related stuff.
I was sort of shocked. I definitely did some research before the proposal, but to buy a dress, and hide going to look at venues, etc. just seemed really wrong to me.
Not to mention her mom said she would be contacting me to reserve the date within the next week or so, as they were looking other places. I can't believe this. LOL. I hope he proposes - I don't know if I should even book the wedding.