Post # 1
would it be wrong to have some of my FI friends (hes military so soldiers) run a little bit of security at our wedding. i have a certain person from my past who may want to crash our wedding and ruin things, i was thinking about having some of my FI friends have a pic of the person and descretly watch to keep things safe for us. i dont want them standing guard or ne thing that would be so akward for my guests and id rather everyone not know, but just stay semi near the entrance and know who they are watching for.
does that sound reasonable or should i handle it another way?
Post # 3
I think it would be reasonable to discretely ask them to look out for this person and ask them if they would feel comfortable asking said person to leave. I don’t think it is reasonale to ask guests to hang out by the door and act as security guards at your wedding. If you have serious concerns which would require a “bouncer” all night, don’t ask a guest, hire a professional. You could be putting FI’s friends in a very awkard place and they will certainly not enjoy the evening if they are focused on watching the door all night.
Post # 4
I’m going to have security at my wedding as well due to any wedding crashers that might decide to show up. i agree with the most recent comment, As long as its done discretely and there isn’t a big show about them being there I think it’s totally fine. And if you think you’ll have serious concerns then hire a pro 🙂
Post # 5
Discrete is good. The last thing you want (apart from a problem with safety), is for yourself and others to be more concerned about security issues than enjoying the wedding itself.
Post # 6
My venue requires that we have security for every 100 guests because we’re serving alcohol. I don’t think it’s weird, I think it’s SMART! Here’s hoping that person doesn’t drop in…(:
Post # 7
Mrs. Peach, I also have several people from my past I am afraid will show up and we are having security (or a bouncer and my FI calls it) as well. Also anyone in any sort of contact with those people will not recieve an invitation so that they can’t find out the address and crash.
Post # 8
I agree with having security for your own peace of mind and safety.
Post # 9
I would try to hire a professional to do the security for your wedding. If you’re inviting your FI’s friends as guests, that wouldn’t be much fun for them to have to keep an ‘eye’ out for this person and/or stay near the entrances/exits. But, I do think if you’re worried, it’s a wise investment.
Post # 10
thanks everyone i should have clarified…. the people who would be discretly watching out for us are FI friends but not close,,, more in the work aquaintence category they would be paid to be bouncers, they arent big into weddings and probably wouldnt come as regular guests though they had the option but give them the option to get paid for a night to be security and theyd love it lol
i can see where that soooooo sounded wrong
no i would certainly never ask guests to do it!!!!!!