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    PutABirdOnIt    December 30, 2010   Los Angeles, CA

    Everyone who commented contructively yesterday, thank you so much!  I changed the time frame to 24 hours, as most of you suggested and as I'm going to leave the guest issue, which is tied in to the timeline issue kind of open-ended.  I'll let the professionals guide me.

    I'm really excited and I'm really pleased with the overall concept.  So, no matter whether it sells or not.  Or is successful or not, it's really fun to put it out there for consideration.

    And unfortunately, I have something to say to the few who came on the thread and basically bashed the idea:  I only asked for feedback from reality t.v. fans.  To come on my thread and say it's a terrible concept is beyond rude.  And it's even worse because I suspect it was personal-because it came from a couple of the exact same bees who were all over my ass on another thread. And I want to point out that I didn't lose my shit on you, which I could have. Easily. Because you were being really rude then too.

    If you don't care for what I have to say, then stay off my thread.  It's disrespectful and I wan't even asking you for your opinion, which makes it worse. I've never been anything but nice and supportive here.  If someone asks for input on something wedding (or NWR) and I don't care for it, I don't comment

    Telling me how much you hate my show idea is the same as telliing me you hate my dress or my hair or anything else. An I don't appreciate you making this personal.  It's really not appropriate.

    So, to everyone who helped me get this done-a big thank you:)  And to the rest of you...I'll refrain from comment. lol

     
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    Jeannine @ Small Chic    June 1, 2012   Virginia

    Yay!  So what was the pitch like?  How many people were there?  I haven't read the original thread in about a day, so I'm not sure if you shared this already.

    How do you feel about it?!?  This is so exciting for you!!!

     
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    chasesgirl    December 30, 2011   East Texas

    Thats super exciting. I didn't comment on the other thread, but I totally would watch a show like that. NEVER would I be on it, but then again, that is true of pretty muvh any show I watch.

    However, I will say, I didn't read beyond really the orignal few posts on the other thread but passive aggressively calling out other people doesn't seem to be any better than what they did. Just an observation.

    But anyway, the show sounds like a guilty pleasure for lots of people on here! And personally, way better than some other "reality" shows there are on...

     
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    cr6zy    September 10, 2011   phoenix

    i didnt comment on the idea but i like it. its not personally something id participate in but id watch it! let us know when it airs!

     
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    PutABirdOnIt    December 30, 2010   Los Angeles, CA

    @chasesgirl: Thank you. I really do appreciate your input. 

    As far as the rest, the reason I called them out was because I was attacked mercilessly by them on another thread.  And I had to defend myself repeatedly.  Then they came on my thread and attacked the idea personally. 

    So, I'm just really pissed because I put myself and my idea out there and they crapped all over it without provocation.  I didn't ask for their opinions, I wanted thoughts and constuctive feedback. And the thread was supposed to be inclusive of reality t.v. fans only. It was like coming into my home uninvited and insulting me. It was just so negative, I guess I finally caught it too.

    Anyway, do you think I should have posted that in another thread? lol

     
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    chittychittybanebane    October 22, 2011  

    CONGRATS! Hope it is successful & keep us in the loop!

     
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    PutABirdOnIt    December 30, 2010   Los Angeles, CA

    Thanks everyone, again. Especially those who acted as my focus group:)  It really helped me tighten it up and make some positive changes. Definitely keep you posted.  Flying out Tuesday...

     
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    jneden    October 22, 2011   Phoenix, AZ

    Ok so I just went back and read the original post with the idea..... and I would TOTALLY watch it!! I wouldn't go on it because I LOVE wedding planning but I think there are a lot of creative DIY/adventerous brides that would be interested. I think the cash prize is a good idea because it would be great to have some extra cash towards the house/kids/ or whatever.

    Also, I think it is very creative and GREAT JOB on having an idea and going for it!!! There will always be people that will try and talk you out of things or knock you down.... but just keep going! My mom always says jet planes don't have rear view mirrors! Keep your determination and drive and you will be successful!!! :)

     
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    PutABirdOnIt    December 30, 2010   Los Angeles, CA

    @jneden: Well thank you too! lol  I'm glad you like it.  I know there are people who wouldn't go on the show in a million years, but as you pointed out, there are plenty who will.  Plus, it would just be fun to watch and not as formulaic as some of the shows.

    I just told this to someone else this morning, but several years ago I had the chance to option a novel to develop into a screenplay.  I got the author on board and his agent (Mort Janklow-super famous book agent at the time:) and we agreed on a price. But I just freaked at the last minute.  I would have had a year to do something with the property and even though I have some good connections, I just couldn't handle the pressure.  Regret it to this day.

    So, whatever happens, happens. Whether this is a go or a no, at least it was put out there. Your mom is right:)

     
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    GirlWithARing    September 5, 2010   Living in NYC, marrying in Philadelphia

    I just went back to read your original post. I think the idea has real potential, and as a fan of The Amazing Race, I definitely see the appeal of watching teams race to put together a wedding on a limited time frame. 

    I just wanted to offer one thought, though. I think some posters in the other thread made good points about "holes" in the idea, and it seemed like you frequently responded by getting defensive and/or saying "the professionals will take care of it". If it were me, this is something I would watch out for, since more likely than not, you won't get all positive comments during the actual pitch. They might love the idea, but I'd imagine a professional would want to ask a bunch of hard questions to make sure it could really work. And getting defensive in response to those questions wouldn't be good. Also, while I think it's fine to leave issues such as "How big is the prize?" or "How much of the couple's budget is provided by the show?" to the professionals, potential shortcomings in the concept itself might be up to you to figure out. If I was in your situation, I would go through the other thread and make sure I had a good, logical answer to all the issues bees brought up - if a bee thought of it, chances are the producer will too (with the exception of "all reality TV sucks", obviously, since that's not really constructive criticism).

    Best of luck in your meeting! 

     
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    dani ddha    July 2, 2011   Los Angeles

    Good luck!

    I went back and read the original post. I don't quite understand all the criticism. Constructive criticism is helpful, but some of it was just rude and snarky. 

    Personally, I think it sounds like a great idea. And just being given the opportunity to pitch is great. My FI is a screenwriter so I know how exciting, stressful, and a rush this all can be.

    I know people who would participate in the show. I would watch (I'm prob a little too type A and detail oriented to participate though :) ). There's potential for brides to show real creativity. As a viewer, I could probably pull ideas from the show that I would have never thought of. I think to participate a bride would need to be fun, up for anything, and have a good amount of creativity. I agree this wouldnt appeal to the traditional country club/banquet room/hotel wedding tribe, but a more fun and modern crowd. I am honestly bored with a lot of the wedding shows now because they seem to show the same thing over and over. If your show focuses more on creativity as opposed to drama (no more bridezillas - that show is ridiculous) it would be fun. Especially, if a lot of the creativity shown on blogs is transferred to tv. I think blogs have catered to the more modern fun bride, but tv is lacking behind. I agree that I like the 24 hour window better. I think some posters also missed the point that planning could be done in advance, just not deposits, etc. Seems like a fun show.

     
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    PutABirdOnIt    December 30, 2010   Los Angeles, CA

    @GirlWithARing: I can see where you would think I was brushing off some of the feedback, but honestly this is a concept and it's definitely not perfect.  I'm the idea person not the person who will actually develop the show.  I expect to sell it and let them take over from there.  I don't have the experience to make those decisions.  I'm the idea person, not the person who actually has ultimate control. And I'm willing to discuss the "holes' in a meeting of execs.  No problem.  I do have ideas but they will most likely have some of their own.

    I'm not going to executive produce it myself and I don't know which network will end up with it, if any. So, questions about compensation and the amount of the prize (or even what is should be) are ultimately to be answered by someone actually in charge.

    Does that make sense?

     
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    PutABirdOnIt    December 30, 2010   Los Angeles, CA

    @dani ddha: I agree!  Most of these wedding shows are sooo boring and predictable.  Look at Four Weddings, yawn.  It's always at a hotel or catering hall.  And how many times can you watch someone try on a dress or frost a cake?  lol

    I definitely hope someone thinks this is fun and can attract applicants and viewership. And yeah, the whole idea is creativity and originality.  Anyone can plan a traditional wedding. But can you take a vintage 1950s wedding dress and build your theme around it? Maybe have In 'N Out Burger cater and get someone (not guests) to wear the paper hats to serve? And run out and buy toppings to customize the all-ready-made milkshakes? Could you have a bowling alley serve as the venue (and get the owner to give you a half hour of quiet to have the ceremony, of course:) And have the guests assigned to lanes to play after?

    I don't know. Some people might and that's what i would hope to watch:)

     

     

     

     

     
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    Mrs.KMM    July 17, 2010   Atlanta, GA (wedding in Indianapolis, IN)

    Thank you for passive agressively calling me out despite the fact that I don't dislike you, I wasn't attacking you, and I did not seek out your thread to bash you (I honestly didn't even realize you were the same person I was disagreeing with on the earlier thread you referenced until now).

    You asked for the opinions of reality tv fans (which I am - I probably watch more reality tv than anything else - and Amazing Race is my favorite).  I gave you my opinion and my constructive criticism.  Sorry you didn't like my opinion but it is what it is.  As a PP in this thread mentioned, you seem pretty set in you pitch anyway so I don't think anyone's contructive criticism would have changed much in your mind.

    If you just wanted validation of your idea, don't ask for opinions.  Because if you do, you'll get both sides of the coin.

     
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    PutABirdOnIt    December 30, 2010   Los Angeles, CA

    @Mrs.KMM: Again, I wasn't asking for opinions.  I wanted productive feedback, positive or negative and not someone tell me they hated the concept.  Not constructive and really rude.  And I was definitely not being passive-aggressive when I called certain people out.  I was very clear about my feelings.  I did not name names for obvious reasons and I didn't need to bother since the two or three of you know who you are.

    I really don't feel it's appropriate to keep engaging on this level. Really.  Let's just leave it alone. Your behavior yesteday was so egregious, I really don't want to hear what you have to say.  I'm revoking your posting privileges on my threads. Would that I could. lol

     

     

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