Post # 1
Is it rude if I don’t get a gift for the bride at the bridal shower if I am paying a larger amount of $ towards cost of the bridal shower itself (i.e. food)? I’m a little (ok a lot) strapped for cash but I don’t want to be rude.
Background…I’m one of the bridesmaids for this wedding but I am also getting married myself soon (4 months away). My fiance and I also just purchased a house. We also have a 2nd mortgage because our original house (which we are looking to rent) does not have renters yet, so we are covering both mortgages, wedding costs and costs of being in someone else’s wedding. Talk about stress 🙂
Just looking to get a general consensus 🙂
Post # 3
I think this is fine. I would definitely bring her a card at least.
Post # 4
@Haweewee: even if you are contributing to the shower, I’d still take a card.
Post # 5
I also think this is fine; the shower is your gift to her!
I second the card.
Post # 6
@Haweewee: Can you buy something small? Perhaps, a reasonably priced vase (dollar store or Big Lots) with cheapy Trader Joe’s or Costco flowers in it and a card? Maybe be more reasonable with the food. Do you need ideas on money saving tips?
Post # 7
I dont think its unreasonable at all to not get her something, but if you’d like to do something realtively affordable you could always get her a personalized hanger for the wedding day (assuming she doesnt already have one).
Post # 8
Thank you! I will definitely have a card with something meaningful inside.
Post # 9
I would get something $20 or less.
Post # 10
I just had a bridal shower. The bridesmaids went in on several gifts to me, and that was really sweet. Maybe you can get with the others and do a group gift. Maybe everyone chip in 10.00 and get a card and picture frame or something?
Post # 11
@Haweewee: your contribution towards the bridal shower is considered your gift to the bride I would think. How much can one person be expected to give, give, give?
Post # 12
I do not expect the people hosting my shower to buy me a gift, and expect that generally they won’t. I think just a nice card and maybe something small that reflects your friendship is plenty. You know your friend though, will she be mad?
I am sure we have seen a few brides come on here and complain about their bridesmaids not buying them shower gifts, so it is possible she is expecting it.
Post # 13
I would talk with the other hosts about giving a gift from all of you. Otherwise, I would give her something…you can always find a pretty vase, picture frame, candle, etc. for under $10.00. Places like Michael’s, AC Moore, etc. always have 40% off coupons online or just look in the housewares section at TJ Maxx, Marshalls, Home Goods or Ross.