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Maybe send a reminder?
My bridal shower was yesterday and I was feeling that way up until I got there. I had my mom, FMIL, FSIL, and their neighbor (plus me of course!). We're having about 30 guests and it was what it was. I enjoyed the dinner and quiet evening.
Do I wish there were more people? Yeah.
Did I have a good time? Yeah.
It'll be okay!
Most people don't RSVP and just show up. CAsually bring it up in a convo and ask if they got the invitation. I shamelessly went to a bridal shower without rsvp'ing. I'm that girl brides hate...lol
Who sent out the evite/who is the hostess? Ask that person to send out a reminder to RSVP.
Also, how long ago was the evite sent out? I know that a LOTTTTTT of people view an evite when they get it first, and then forget to RSVP or just don't bother RSVPing to it. Not acceptable, but it's what people do.
Seriously, I know it is easier said than done, but do not take it personally! It is seriously not a slight to you...it is just that people are busy and they forget to do things like RSVP to invitations. I know that evite usually sends out automatic remindres, but I think it depends on the settings. So if the hostess sends out a reminder of her own (ask her to ask people to reply even if their reply is a no), then you might see a bump in the RSVPs.
Or, if the people who have yet to respond are your friends, then just ask them if they know yet if they can come...mention how excited you are for it and then be like "you think you'll be able to make it?" I know that isn't feasible, though, for people you don't talk to regularly.
And know that you will have fun no matter how many people end up coming!
Give it another week then ask whoever is hosting the shower to call the people who haven't RSVP'd yet to follow up.
I really apprecaite the advice! Its been over a week and i guess im just impatient. I know ill have fun no matter what but i guess i see so many people having huge lavish showers and i want that but ill take what i can get!
I know its a bit disappointing, but just have fun with it, no matter who comes. It will be great!
I'm not good at responding to evites, so I'm sure lots of the people you invited aren't either. Even if you only have a handful of people at your shower, don't get upset. I'm sure it will all turn out fine.
I totally understand the impatience - I would be the exact same way! Since the invitation was sent by evite, I think it's a great idea to have the hostess call up the people who haven't replied. Some people aren't super comfortable with evites, and in other cases, if they don't RSVP as soon as they open the evite, it might get buried in their inbox and slip their minds later on. I'm sure it will all be just fine in the end!
Awww.. I was the same way before my co-workers threw me one.. I don't have tons of friends either and to me, a bridal shower should be special and intimate and NOT just for everyone that might show up, ya know? My MOH/best friend didn't have the funds to throw me one, and I felt kind of irritated because I'm not close enough to my family (SIL's) to expect them to do anything nice for me, so I just felt kind of let down about it all. My mom wanted to, but I had thought about it so much I was just kind of disinterested in it by that point so I told her not to bother lol. Why have a shower when you can have a pity party?! LOL. Anyways, my point is, your wedding will be very special whether or not you get a bridal shower. Maybe it will happen yet, out of the blue, but if not, just know you're not the only one that feels like that!
Most of my guests didn't RSVP but they did show up. And I know that the organizers had to follow up with people several times.
@studentbride: I know how you feel. I don't have a lot of close friends and most of them that are close aren't female. Also, all of my family is coming from out of town so the only family present will be my FMIL, my mother, and my grandmother.
Hang in there, I'm sure it will turn out better than you think!
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My shower is coming up in two weeks and im a little sad! Only about 5 people have rsvpd... fmil, my mom, me, a bm, and someone my mom works wiith. I didnt have a lot of people to invite because... a) i dont have tons of friends b) half of my wedding party is out of town and c)im having a small wedding (60-75) and cant invite just anyone!
Im considering inviting more people so i can invite more people to my shower, but there is just not enough room in the venue.
I know i should have about 8 people at my shower but im a little annoyed that the evite only got those many rsvps when i can see that everyone has looked at the freaking rsvp!
How do i get more rsvpps (a NO would even make me feel better) without begging people?
I feel like a big loser, but i know this isnt the important part... the getting married to my best friend/cutest guy ever/best man ever is the important part... but still this sucks.