Post # 1
I’m planning a wedding a wedding shower for my employee. We celebrate baby showers, wedding showers and birthdays often. We are a large group (about 60 total employees) and I want to have a something for her that will make her feel special and have the team feel welcomed to celebrate along side as well. The dilema for me is whether or not to state that gifts are not a requirement to attend the celebration.
We have had other showers and gifts always abound, but many times people feel obligated to bring a gift and others don’t attend because they don’t have a gift. Since this is a weddding and abviously no one at work is invited, I’d like to state that gifts are not required. Any thoughts or comments? My fellow Managers have different opinions and think I should mention where she is registered. I strongly disagree.
BTW ( I will be proving food, beverages and cake, so it is a full on celebration but it is during work hours)
Post # 3
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
I almost think I’d list where she is registered and ALSO note that gifts are not required. Work showers shouldn’t follow the same etiquette as regular bridal showers, since the attendees aren’t generally all invited to the wedding! But some people might like to give a gift anyway, and they might like to know where she is registered so that they can get her something she’ll like!
Post # 4
I second spaniels advice!
Post # 5
Maybe a note saying something like, “Please see MexicanMami if you’d like to contribute to a group gift card that we, as a department, will be presenting to her.” That way, folks could donate a dollar or two if they were unable to purchase a larger gift, or maybe if they couldn’t contribute, they would feel like they were “covered.” I’d still list the registries.
Post # 6
That’s a great idea. I can add both. I just don’t want anyone to feel obligated, but adding the comment after the information works.
Post # 7
We use to do alot of the same things at my previuos job. What I would do, is before the shower, let everybody in the workplace know that you are excepting cash. I would say 5-10 dollars per person. Let people know that it is not mandatory. Then, you can take the cash you collect and go to where she is registered and get a gift card. That’s what my job always did. Good Luck, and that’s so sweet of you to do.
Post # 8
I didn’t think of that. My co-workers are offering to do gift cards for my shower this coming April. I guess I can give my employees options for their fellow co-worker. Duh, I didn’t think of it.
Post # 9
You’re welcome! Hope it all turns out great!