Wedding shower: overkill or not?

posted 2 years ago in Parties
Post # 2
milkcowBee
216 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - The Meeting House/DoubleTree by Hilton

spiffanee:  I think (and this is just a guess, so I could be totally wrong) maybe it is a bridal shower and they are just calling it a wedding shower? I’ve heard it called a wedding shower when it is for both the bride and groom (because bridal makes it sound like it is just for the bride, I guess?). If that’s the case, then you’d bring a gift to the shower and to the wedding. In my experience, shower gifts tend to be smaller and something off the registry, while the wedding gift is usually something more expensive and is normally money or a special gift.

Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

spiffanee:  Was the invitation from the couple? If it is someone else hosting, perhaps they just used a different term than bridal shower.

If I received an invitation from a couple hosting their own shower, I would send my regrets.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

My wedding shower was a surprise, so different scenario.. But my friend did host her own shower… I’ve been to a few Jack & Jill showers.. So the couple will have men and women there. 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I’ve heard wedding shower and bridal shower interchangably. 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Not sure about others but in my circle we call it a wedding shower not a bridal shower *shrug*

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

spiffanee:  in my area we bring a physical gift from the registry to the shower and cash to the wedding. If you don’t want to feel obligated to spend money twice I would decline the shower. 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

 

spiffanee:  You can get something off the registry for both the shower and the wedding, if you choose to go to the shower.  There is nothing wrong with using the registry twice. 

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

spiffanee:  I would go from the registry for both too- something smaller for the shower and bigger for the wedding. 

Post # 11
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Newbee

In my area if you attend the shower, you are not expected to bring a gift to the actual wedding. I think one gift per wedding is completely acceptable. And, either one you attend purchasing off the registry is just fine – don’t overthink it 😉

Also I’ve always heard the term “wedding shower” vs. “bridal shower” used interchangably, but bridal does imply bride only vs. couple. 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Here, we use the terms interchangeably. 

🙂

Post # 14
milkcowBee
216 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - The Meeting House/DoubleTree by Hilton

spiffanee:  Oh, no, sorry for the confusion! You can totally do registry twice and you should definitely do whatever is most comfortable for you – don’t overthink it. It’s not as common in my family/friends to do registry twice but that’s not a rule at all – just sharing a different perspective 🙂 I’ve done it before and I think any couple would be appreciative of any gift you gave them at all. Gifts should never be required or be subject to rules!

Post # 15
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

Yeah, a wedding shower would be like a bridal shower, but it’s for the couple and not just the bride.  You can buy off of the registry for both the shower and wedding if you wish.

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