Post # 1
My daughter is getting married in August and with immediate family (both sides) and a few of their friends we are at our max. I would like to throw her a wedding shower and invite people (my friends mostly) who we did not invite to the wedding….
Searched the internet and it seems 50/50
Can I just say “gift not required”??
Post # 3
No, don’t do this. People should not be invited to a wedding shower for a wedding they won’t be invited to.
Post # 4
A) You should never invite people to a wedding event if they aren’t invited to the wedding.
B) As the mother of the bride, you should not be throwing a shower anyway. That is seen as soliciting gifts for your child.
Post # 41
I personally feel like if I were invited to a shower, but not the wedding, I’d be pretty confused.
Is your max number of people based on a building’s capacity? You could, for example, have the wedding outside or in a bigger space and invite everyone. Or you could invite everyone to the ceremony, but only a certain number to the reception. If all else fails, you could at least throw a simple get-together instead of a shower for those who were uninvited.
It’s also O.K. to throw the shower for your daughter. It’d not rude, because people who want to give gifts will give them anyway and you needn’t worry what anyone assumes. Let them make a butt of themselves if they so wish. It will tell you who cares more about the happy couple than imagined appearances. 🙂