Post # 1
I had my co-ed wedding shower this past Saturday. And a total of 12 people were there, including my fiance and I and 3 children under 3 years old.
The guest were my mom and sister, my fiance’s dad and his girlfriend, my Maid/Matron of Honor and her mom, and my fiance’s cousin-in-law who gave the shower, and 3 kids. I use the term gave very loosely because she didn’t send out invitations (which I know are not necessary), but only gave people a week’s notice. She only provided cupcakes, chips, and punch for the shower. No decorations. Thankfully, my Maid/Matron of Honor made more food, even though it wasn’t even necessary, since NOBODY EVEN CAME.
While I don’t want to sound unappreciative, I realize I know I sound that way. But I am appreciative of her giving the shower, just wish she had been more organized and let me know longer in advance, and made sure people were actually coming.
I know our wedding and wedding related events will never be as important to other people as they are to my fiance and me, but it really upset me because my fiance and I go to all his cousin’s baby showers and their kids birthday parties. So my fiance and I have agreed (as petty and childish as this will sound) not to go to their kids birthday parties anymore.
This is a vent, so I’d rather not have anyone tell me I’m unappreciative and childish 🙂
Post # 3
I had low attendance too, because tons of people were on vacation… it bummed me out a little, but I just focused on why I was there and that weddings bring out the worst manners in some people. And you keep that in the back of your mind when you’re invited to something of theirs, and it’s a pain in the neck to get there. You won’t feel as guilty about sending a card 🙂
Post # 4
I can understand why you would feel a bit upset. My shower is out of state (500 miles from where I live) and a month away and the invitations are still in the process of being made – I was upset to find this out, since even though people (Fi’s family and my BMs here) know the date, I feel like they should have officially been invited by now to make travel plans (no one has made travel plans yet to go – I’m sure because they have been waiting on the official invitation to know time, etc).
Vent it out here for a few minutes, then move forward. It’s over and done with now – no going back and changing it, so try not to dwell on it and upset you too much!
Post # 5
That is a bummer, but let it go. If having a nice shower is important to you, you can always throw your own. I know its not the way its supposed to be but I’m sure your bridal party would help/take over. Sounds like you can’t blame people for not attending if there were no invites and it was a week’s notice.