Post # 1
My fiance and I have a very good friend and coworker (I think he is even going to be the best man) who offered to sing at our wedding. The problem is, I really don’t like vocal music at wedding ceremonies and I do not want him to sing. I told him this, and he insisted he was singing. He also mentioned he wanted to sing so that he doesn’t have to buy us a gift. We really don’t care about gifts at all and told him as much, but he just won’t listen! I really hate to pull a bridezilla move that would 1)hurt his feelings, 2)possibly hurt our friendship, and 3)make me seem like an awful person, but I don’t know what to do! Help!
Post # 3
I think it’s pretty simple: you DON’T have him (or anyone else) sing at YOUR wedding.
Make sure that your soon-to-be hubby is also on board with this, and stick like glue to what you said about not liking vocal music at weddings. There is nothing wrong with that, and for him to insist that he is singing at your wedding (especially during your ceremony) is pretty pushy and while it may be well-intended, it’s a little rude. This ain’t the Best Man show, it’s your wedding vows.
That he would suggest that he’s singing so that he doesn’t have to give you a gift? I mean, good for you for not being focused on the material aspect of things, but as a singer, and as someone who has sung in many a friend’s wedding (only when ASKED) – EW.