Post # 1
A really good friend that works with my fiance and I (and who is most likely going to be the best man) offered to sing at our wedding ceremony. The problem is, I really don’t want anyone to sing at our ceremony. I’ve never been a fan of vocal music at wedding ceremonies. He mentioned that one of the reasons he wanted to sing was that so he wouldn’t have to buy us a gift. We really don’t care about gifts at all, and I’ve told him that, but how do I politely decline his offer to sing? I tried, and he wouldn’t listen! Help!
Post # 3
remember Friends? Ross wanted to play bagpipes at Monica and Chandler’s wedding?
Maybe give your friend another task? You know, so he’ll be too busy to sing?
I wanted Adam Sandler but other than that, I feel your pain 🙂
Post # 4
Wow…I can’t believe he admitted that! I would just tell him that you don’t expect gifts from the bridal party since they’re renting tuxes or whatever :). That way he won’t feel as bad not getting you a gift.
Once you do that, I would tell him that you’ve already selected a DJ/band, and you really don’t want to deviate from what you already have planned :). Maybe he’ll get the hint?
Post # 5
I think honesty is your best policy here, especially since he doesn’t seem to be getting the hint. Tell him nicely that you just aren’t a fan of singing during the ceremony–any singing, not just his. As for the gift…yeah, as jo.lee said, just tell him his being part of the wedding party is his gift. Hopefully that’ll ease his worries.
I don’t like vocal music at wedding ceremonies either, so I feel your pain. Good luck!
Post # 6
He sounds very selfish. Firstly doing it so he doesn’t have to buy you a gift and secondly because he doesn’t even bother to ask how you feel about him seeing. Don’t bother being polite, simply be direct and tell him you’re not interested.