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Wedding Song Drama

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    Ok.. so here's the problem. I found a really unique song one day listening to acoustic guitar on youtube. This song is fun, beautiful, wonderful, and my fiance' and I listen to it all the time. It makes us smile Smile. My good friend (who also happens to be a very old ex-boyfriend of mine from jr high days AND now dating my younger sister) is our wedding ceremony musician. He plays guitar which is perfect for our outdoor ceremony and it means a lot to me to have him play. So I told him about this song to see if he would want to learn it. Well, he loved it and learned it, played it in front of my sister, and now she keeps saying "it's MINE, MINE, MINE, MINE. we are having it at our wedding!!!".. What do I say to that??? I don't even know what to think. I've tried to laugh it off and tell her well, it was our song for quite some time now.. and I think it's immature for me to tell her she can't like the same song I do. Haha. But it still bothers me. *sigh* What to do.. P.S. I should also have mentioned that he is still happy to play it for us at our wedding. It's just a matter of my sister saying it's her song and she wants it for her wedding (which may not be for 10 years, who knows)

     
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    JustlikeHeaven    March 6, 2009  

    well if he wont play it... find someone that will!

     
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    Talishazwi    January 16, 2011   Seattle, WA

    You can play it at both of the weddings.  No one will remember.  It's not like you are trying to do the same rock the reception.  I just went to a wedding in August and June and I have no idea which songs were played at any time.  And I was MOH in both!

     
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    Miss Root    07/04/10   Seattle

    Umm... you can't claim a "song". 

    Your sister is being extremely immature... I realize that more than one person can have emotionally attachment to a song, but it's not as though this song is not meaningful to you.  Is she even engaged?  Planning a wedding? 

    I would continue to remain light-hearted about the entire situation, and continue with your plans to use the song of your choice.  If and when your sister decides to get married, I'm sure no one except the two of you will remember what song was played and no one would notice that she used it too. 

     

     
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    Are you bothered that she will play it at her wedding too?  Or is she saying that ONLY she will play it at her wedding?  I guess as long as you get to have it played at your wedding, that you should let it go.  It sucks that she likes it so much and it REALLY sucks that she's "claiming" the song, but if you will still play it at your wedding and it still means a lot to you, then forget her.  You can call her a copycat and just ignore her.

     

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