- 8 years ago
- Wedding: July 2011
Ah, wedding planning. It is supposed to be a time to plan your perfect wedding, right? Not so much. I felt really good for about a week after I got engaged and then I started going into full panic mode, waking up at 6am from anxiety attacks and everything. I am not the most calm person in general, and wedding planning is a complicated process, but I feel that my particular situation adds a layer of stress that I have no idea how I will handle.
Hence, I am wondering if anyone is in the same boat as me. Basically, I grew up in a Jewish and only mildly practicing family while my Fiance is religious, but he is not really orthodox. Also, we are both from Eastern Europe. He wants the wedding to be as close to a real orthodox wedding as possible, including kosher food. I have to balance this desire with having a wedding I have always dreamed of. While I love a lot of elements of the Jewish wedding, I have absolutely no interest in klezmer (sp?) music, I am not wearing a modest gown (I’m hunting for a lace jacket to cover my open gown for the ceremony), more on that later, and I am operating on a budget that might not handle the extra expense of an ALL kosher wedding(including alcohol!!)
Also, my mom is financially helping with the wedding, while his parents are most likely not, so she of course has a certain vision that she “subtly” pushes on me. “Oh, X had a wedding at this retaurant and it was so easy, and elegant and awesome” Thanks mom, for the millionth time, they don’t have kosher food.
To make matters worse, there are not that many resources for someone in my situation. It seems people either have full on orthodox weddings or they have weddings incorporating Jewish elements that are flexible, which is not my case.
Advice?? I can’t wait to get over these hurdles and stress about my dress. haha.