(Closed) Wedding Stress

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
667 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

yeah I know how you feel. My Fiance keeps going back on me. I asked him if he likes my shoes..he says yeah those are great, then like a week later he say’s “I cannot believe you’re gonna wear those shoes” Then we meet with out wedding photograther and he offers her more money for NO reason, then he talks crazy about her using multiple cameras or something. Plus we planned out are day before we met with her, and then he changes how he thinks the day is going to go. According to him I am going to have to get my hair done at like 4 am. Guys have different viewpoints on everything!!!! I guess just be more specific about what you want him to plan. (that’s my only advice)

Post # 5
359 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I totally can relate, but honestly most men are not interested in all the wedding details, as long as they get good food, drinks, and cake at the reception they could hardly care about the rest. My finace is the same way I take him shopping for the wedding stuff and he just stands there and pretty much says, “Whatever you want honey” so irritating and if he has crap to say about what I picked later I just tell him too bad you had your chance to speak up about it and now it’s over. Unfortunately mostly wedding planning is left up to us girls but it can be a good thing though because I am mostly getting what I want. I actually do have a wedding planner and it is still a lot of work and definately a lot of money. Good Luck 🙂

Post # 7
94 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m beginning to feel like this too. Right at the start of planning I had a chat with Fiance and said “Ok, so which bits do you want to sort out” and he said “the music, the drinks and the suits”. We also decided to organise the Honeymoon together.

But as we get closer, all the bits that were my responsibility (and lets face it there are a lot more of those) seem to be getting done, and the bits he is responsible for are not getting done on time, so I have to keep reminding him about them….and honestly, I think it would be less stress if I had just done all of it to begin with because now I am worrying about whether I’m nagging him and whether his bits will get done in time….urgh!

And I also have the thing with people giving me opinions AFTER a decision’s been made, but not BEFORE – when I was asking for opinions!

*sighs* I think I need to take some deep breaths!

Post # 9
724 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I would absolutely be frustrated if I was in your situation too BUT I am going to play devils advocate for a minute becuase I have a fiance that is the complete opposite! 

He wants to be involved in every little detail of the wedding! He sends me links to florists, bakeries, DJs, caterers, etc. a couple times a week and has a very unique vision for our wedding. Problem is, my vision is quite a bit different. He wants a rustic, woodsy theme with branches and pinecones as centerpieces and I want a modern, chic, flowery, girly theme that does not include sticks and pinecones. I am trying my best to combine the two and make it so this wedding reflects his personality too but sometimes it’s really hard having him so involved and passionate about planning. To be honest, sometimes I wish he would back off a bit and just let me handle things and then ask him for help as I need it. Don’t get me wrong, I appreciate his help so much – but I feel as though I am really having to give up on the wedding vision I have always had because I don’t want to hurt his feelings and I want him to be happy!  

Good luck with all of your planning. I hope you Fiance will come through and help you out with some things! Take a few deep breaths and know that this will all be over in 9 short months! 

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