Post # 1
we are getting married this July and I was just wondering how everyone copes with the stress of it all. It seems like even although we opted for a small-ish wedding, the costs are spiralling out of control! Politics mean we are inviting family members we rarely see (despite having NO financial help from H2Bs parents). There’s also a lot to be done and I find myself awake at crazy hours worrying. Thanks 🙂
Post # 3
First off, take a DEEP breath! All of the stress is the exact reason that FI and I have decided to elope, but I konw that’s not the right choice for everyone. We were also footing the entire bill and were going to wind up inviting tons of family we didn’t really know.
Can you take a week off from planning? Maybe go to a hotel with FI for the weekend or something to de-stress and remind yourself why you’re doing the wedding?
As far as costs go, can you cut budget any where? Maybe DIY something? Opt out of extra flowers you don’t need? Take a deep breath, July 14 is close, but you don’t need to kill yourself over everything!
Post # 4
Have you made a list or are you using any of those wedding checklists? I’d suggest using one of those and just start checking things off one at a time. A lot of them come with budget sections too so might help keep you on track.
It also helps to keep in mind that you’re not going to make everyone happy, mistakes will happy, and that it’ll all be okay because in the end you’re marrying a great man.
I agree with a PP in finding DIY projects that’ll help you cut down on your budget. Also, when considering things to buy, also think about whether you could re-sell them later to help off-set your costs.
Also, if you’re taking a lot on yourself, are there some things you can delegate to H2B’s family so they can at least contribute in a different (non-monetary) way?
Is your wedding party supportful? Sometimes it helps to de-stress by just having a good vent
EDIT: Also, I’ve come to realize that as the bride, a lot of people are going to look to you so as “Da Wedding Boss” take charge! Delegate! And sometimes just put your foot down!