(Closed) Wedding stress – eloping !

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1638 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@allybee2013:  Do you want them in Paris? Does your FI? Because there is nothing wrong with saying you want to go alone to Paris. Also, your honeymood is off limits. That belongs to you and your new husband alone.

Post # 4
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195 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@allybee2013:  wow, this seems like a tough situation. I myself am concidering putting the idea of a big wedding away, and just either eloping or having a small ceremony here with our immediate family and closest friends. It would just be so much more stress free, and so much more financially realistic for our situation.

sorry, but the parents going on your honeymoon are a big no. You should be firm with that. She should understand it herself though, but if she keeps on insisting, just firmly tell her that this honeymoon is meant for you and your husband… I cant believe she suggested she go with you…

have you thought of having an at home ceremony? Maybe a court house wedding? I knwo its not as romantic as a Paris wedding, but at least it will be very cheap and you can have both sides of family there. Then you could celebrate at a noce restaurant, and go to Paris on your honeymoon. Alone. With no mom in law…

Post # 5
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317 posts
Helper bee

@allybee2013:  I love your idea for a Paris elopement! I’m eloping due to similar issues with my own family so I know how difficult and sad it can be. I considered letting my in laws come to our elopement but just couldn’t get past how much of a reminder it would be that my family wasn’t there so we are continuing with our original plan to have no guests. I would try to explain to her that her comment caught you off guard and you offered a quick, polite response but you two have agreed to have a true elopement with no guests and you look forward to celebrating with her when you get home.  And no, she cannot attend the honeymoon, that’s just crazy. Even though they’re his parents, you can say no to that.  It’s hard but you absolutely have the right to do that.

 

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