Wedding Stress….and Unneeded Drama

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1629 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Church

@amazinglynicegirl:  I’m so sorry. That sucks so much. I think that because of the stress, which I cannot even imagine, means you are going into overdrive to make your vision come true and make everything since you are not sure what’s going to happen. Try to take a breath to calm down. Have you spoke to this particular BM one-on-one since the shop incident? You might need to – it could be a case of misunderstandings causing hurt feelings. I understand your feelings about the BM dresses (I feel somewhat similar) but just breath.

Post # 5
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11734 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Why did you ask this girl to be in your wedding?  It doesn’t really sound like she’s a close friend of yours, so I’m a bit confused about that. 

But here’s the thing.   She hates the dress, obviously.  And while she should come to you about it, relaying message that she just has to deal with it through your FI to the best man to her is inappropriate.  Pick up the phone and have a real conversation with this girl, not playing an elementary school game of “telephone.” I would be uncomfortable with some “friend” of yours I didn’t know doing my alterations, and would much prefer them to be done at a shop, also.  I get where she’s coming from on that.  Is there any way she can tweak the dress so she’s comfortable, but that it doesn’t take away from your vision of the wedding?  There has to be a compromise here. 

I understand you have a lot of stress in your life right now, and the double-whammy of cancer going through your family majorly sucks.  You can’t fault the bridesmaid for her actions over the stress that’s going on in your personal life.  It just seems to me like you’re lumping it all in like it’s connected, and it’s not. 

 

Post # 6
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3016 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

I swear it’s been three days of non-stop horror stories about Bridal parties. I’m starting to really question why anyone bothers with them. Apparentely people are just LAME! Demanding, unhelpful, complaining! What happened to supporting people during their weddings???

I’m so sorry this woman is adding to your very real stress with her ridiculousness. I would be glad to see her go, frankly. 

Post # 8
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11734 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@amazinglynicegirl:  Well, then personally, I think you asked for trouble by asking someone you aren’t even friends with to be in your bridal party.  Your bridesmaids are supposed to be your closest and dearest friends, not in the party because they happen to be dating somone else in the wedding party.

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