- 9 years ago
- Wedding: August 2009
Im in a long distance thing and happily enough my fiance said we should marry where I live bec I am the bride I get first dibs. Problem is he lives in England so he can only invite and we will help shoulder his immediate family, luckily he has only his parents sister and best man and bestman’s GF. His whole clan will not be able to come or his friends because its so pricey. I said we can always have a second ceremony there, but like he said there’s only one real ceremony
So basically it’s mostly my side, and since it’s my side it’s only right I will shoulder most of the bill.
Because we are thinking of moving to each other’s countries, mainly me to England although he hasnt ruled out comintg to NYC though I know he hates it, I really dont want to blow my lifes savings on a wedding that lasts one day and you just have an album at the end of the day on your coffee table, on the other hand its the most important day in my life and I dont know if I should just have a church ceremony and just go to a nice restaurant and save money. Or go all out beautiful reception, cake flowers photographer at an elegant place.
My fiance is already helping out with hotel and flight for his 5 members, which will cost thousands of dollars while I take care of the other details, my parents are not wealthy but I know deep down if it’s not perfect dream wedding I will have regrets.
So what should I do, have a nice ceremony and dine at a simple restaurant keep my savings for a rainy day since if one of us moves that person will not be working for awhiile and be practical? Or have a small but nice dream wedding for 50 people fairytale romantic wedding blow some of my hard earned savings-which can be used for a house down payment, which took many years to build up especially since I live in NYC most expensive city in the world.
I already found a nice restaurant who will serve 50 people plus open bar with exquisite food and ambience for only $2800-cheap for NYC and cheap for a wedding reception-except its not designed for weddings and if we have a DJ I have to keep the music down. If I go all out, say central park boathouse, or some other fancy place flowers photography, it’ll easily run a cool $15,000+ for 50 people on my shoulders alone. Digs deep into into my savings since I now have enough for a house down payment and help my sis as well.
What to do?