- 6 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
I attended a wedding back in December…and I thought I would share my experience with you and get your opinions.
I’m an American expat in the UK. The bride and groom were British, where apparently it’s common to do two things that I would never do:
1. Invite people only to the reception, and not the ceremony.
2. Have a cash bar.
Here’s the deal – my fiancee was childhood friends with the groom, and quite close for many, many years. And still close. It’s only by moving away, getting jobs, growing up, etc that they don’t talk as much as they would if they lived closer together.
Initially, neither me nor my FI were invited to the wedding, but to the reception. Ouch, right?
Then, it gets worse.
Some people couldn’t make it to the wedding, so there was space for one person. My FI got an invite and I didn’t. Ouch again, right?
And worse again –
At the time, I was living abroad in Russia, and my FI was still in London. So we were long distance. I was only back in London for 6 days. And to be split up for that time while my FI went to a wedding I wasn’t invited to just wasn’t an option. So my FI agreed he would just go to the reception with me.
We arrive at the reception (even though I didn’t want to go)…and like I said, it’s a cash bar. There’s no food, except for leftover cheese that people who were “good enough” to be invited to the meal had left behind. So our only food options were things that we were “lucky enough” to have left over from the “real” guests.
Then, the tables were dirty from the meal guests. We were sitting at dirty seats, our leftover cheese surrounded by crumbs, spilled wine, etc.
AND…the wedding was right after Christmas and before New Years, during a time that many people would have been out of town (for example, one friend couldn’t visit his parents in Spain because of the wedding date…but even HE wasn’t invited to the ceremony until some space “opened up.”)
Ok..I think that about covers it. I have spoken about this with my friends before, but never posted on here, and I’m just curious what your reactions would be if you had been in the same situation.
And just a quick PS – despite barely feeding anyone and having a cash bar, they somehow spent 22,000 pounds ($34,000) on the thing! What!?! How!?! So confused. So the point is…it wasn’t about money. Because they clearly had it!