Post # 1
Hello I am in the beggining planning of planning our wedding AKA vows renewal. Every vendor that I try to contact and I mention the word “wedding”, feels like I am saying here take my money, rip me off… I just feel SO fustrated how can I plan this “Budget Friendly” wedding went everywhere I go the prices triple as soon as I mention “Wedding”. Should I lie and tell then its for a party…?
Post # 3
@brokeninnj: Don’t lie. Think outside the box.
Instead of having your renewal at a banquet hall or a place that is known for having weddings, how about at your favorite local restaurant? Weddings can be as cheap, or as expensive as you’d like.
Post # 4
@brokeninnj: I am running into the same issue!!!!!! I contacted a DJ for our engagement party, they wanted $700 for 4 hours. Then they wrote back and said $1500 for 5 hours for a wedding, FYI.
I’m about to do the same thing and just saying I am having a party. After all, you are having a party to celebrate 🙂
Post # 5
Oh just wait. Once u get to about a week away from the day, all the vendors will send out final quotes that r a lot higher than before. All of a sudden sugar flowers on ur cake will be 225 instead of 140. Or the grooms suit will end up being twice what u estimated. Or there will be a mandatory bartender service fee on top of rgular charges and tip. Or someone will cancel hair and makeup and ull have to pay their cancellation fee. Ohhhh just wait.
Post # 6
@BeeG35: Wow those vendors sound super shady. All of my prices were upfront and accurate.
To OP, I think you just have to prioritize and figure out what you can do on your own. Certain things such as invites, flowers, decor, stationary, etc, can easily be DIY’d and save you a bunch of money as long as you do everything in house (i.e. design, print cut, and assemble at home).
Post # 7
Don’t lie. Tell the vendors the budget that you’re working with and ask if they have anything that would fit into that budget.
Post # 8
@brokeninnj: If this is a vow renewal and you’re already married then I wouldn’t mind lying to your vendors. Tell them it’s a cocktail party. (Oh and you happen to be reciting vows there …) 😉
Post # 9
@BeeG35: Yeah, we never had this happen, except with our reception venue, and that was a mistake on their part.
Post # 10
@housebee: so I’m just really special. That’s awesome!
Post # 11
@BeeG35: Did you sign contracts with a price on them? That’s what we did–all of our contracts had pricing and we had to sign a new one any time we added anything that changed the price.
Post # 12
@vorpalette: no I have a coordinator who is working with destination vendors for me. Her policies indicate that there aren’t any contracts sent to the bride and groom. So that was a big lesson learned for the next time I get married which will be never.
Post # 13
Definitely avoid traditional venues like banquet halls and the like. Not only will they charge you what I call a “wedding premium,” but you will probably have to supply your own linens, flatware, etc. driving up your cost even more. The restaurant we are having our reception at already has all that stuff. Also, when we were picking all our event options – the restaurant gave us a pamphlet, and there was no premium charged for it being a wedding. I’d basically pay the same if I was hosting a corporate event or a birthday party.
Other areas to think outside the box:
Centerpieces – Don’t bother with a florist. Just get vases from Michael’s or some other craft store or Pier 1 and $10 bouquets at Trader Joes. This is my last resort should I not be able to work anything out with the florist.
Photography – I know this is not popular, but do you have a friend who shoots really good photos? Ask them to do your photography. My mom actually missed her calling to be a photographer so she will be doing our pictures. I’ve found her photos to be better than many professionals. If you have a friend like that, you are in luck.
Make-up/hair – Do your own make-up and hair. Bridal make-up is another rip-off imo. You’re basically paying a premium to not look like you are wearing make-up. Um. Ok. I’m doing my own for this reason.
Favors – You can easily get bubbles at Michaels along with maybe Lindt chocolates or something. Keep it simple and pretty.
Post # 14
@BeeG35: Ewww, what a shitty policy! $10 says that she’s getting kickbacks from the places that she’s booking. :
Post # 15
- Wedding: July 2013 - The front lawn of our church
You don’t have to lie. Just say, “I have x amount budget for this. Can you work with that?” I got my photographers for half their base price this way.
Post # 16
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@brokeninnj: We ended up renting a beach house for the week of the wedding so we can get married and have our reception on the beach behind it. It was about the same price as renting a local hall for the reception. Everything else we have ordered for a “party” rather than a wedding. Rentals, flowers, cake, food, etc…were all bought for a party and not necessarily traditional wedding items. The rental chairs and tables are for a “backyard party”. The flowers are being ordered in bulk from Sam’s Club so I DIY the bouquets and centerpieces; no need to identify it’s for a wedding. The cake is going to be a specialty cake to cut along with cupcakes for the guests from the local grocery store, Publix; ordering standard cake and cupcakes instead of haivng them decorated for a wedding is saving us $$$. The food is being ordered by the pound in trays instead of regular catering; it’s costing us $500-600 instead of $1300 to have it catered by the same restaurant and their catering does not include any workers, only the food and setups.