Post # 1
My FI’s dog passed away over this past weekend and I have been helping him feel better. I can see right now that this is going to be a long process for him, and I completely understand since I had the same situation years ago. He is trying to keep busy with work to keep his mind off the whole thing, but he is really hurting.
So, I have put a complete hold on wedding talk since I think that’s the LAST thing he or anyone in this situation would want. However, next week we have an appointment to meet with the photographer, and I don’t know if I should bring it up to him as a reminder or just reschedule it. I really don’t know how he will respond if I gently remind him that our appointment is in a week. Would he think I’m being insensitive? Or would he not mind at all and find it to be a good distraction?
I guess I really just need advice on whether I should even bring it up–or just go ahead and reschedule.
Post # 3
Oh, that’s so sad, I’m so sorry. It’s so hard losing a pet, they’re family members. Been there!
If it were me, I’d go ahead and reschedule with the photographer so as to give your Fiance some grieving time over losing his canine friend. I’m sure they’ll understand.
Post # 4
remind him like 3 days before
Post # 5
I’d reschedule it. I doubt you fiance is up to handling that kind of appointment right now.
Post # 6
I would just ask him if he wants to reschedule. Maybe he will want something to do to take his time off the mourning. It never hurts to ask.
Post # 7
So sorry! I would ask him about it. It’s possible he’ll want to go to talk about something happy or to take his mind off it.
Post # 8
Based on the responses, I think I will ask him if he still wants to go.
Would it be best to ask now or in a few days? The appointment is for next Thursday….
Post # 9
Closer to the appointment. But not so close that its super last minute if you have to reschedule.
Post # 10
@violet25: I would ask him around Monday-ish. Give him a few more days and then gently say, “We have a meeting Thursday. If you are not feeling up to it I will gladly reschedule”. He would probably appreciate the option.
Post # 11
The loss of a pet is definitely hard but life goes on. If it were me, I would just mention the appointment and see if he feels up to going. He’ll probably feel better by next week anyway but if he tells you he’s not really feeling it then reschedule.
Post # 12
I would just reschedule it. I lost a pet while wedding planning and the last thing I wanted to do was wedding stuff. I asked my husband to let his mom know that I just wasn’t up for it. I let them all know when I was ready.
Also, I just want to send my condolensces. I am so sorry for your loss.
Post # 13
I’m sorry to hear that! I’m sure you guys will see him again someday!
I would just tell him this weekend that we are actually having an appointment with the photographer but I will reschedule it to whenever he’s ready.
In a way, he’s informed about the meeting with the photographer and he would either be glad that you are pushing back the appointment (as he’s not ready) or if he feels he can, he would tell you not to reschedule it.
Post # 14
If he is trying to stay busy, this is a good way to do it. Go on with the appointment.
Post # 15
Let him decide. Offer to go alone, or to reschedule. It’s really hard losing a pet and sometimes getting out of the house is a good thing, but don’t make the decision for him.
Post # 16
When is the wedding. If you absolutely don’t need to do it next week I would reschedule. But let him know. The loss of a pet is Hard. I’m still not over my golden retriever getting cancer last year.