Post # 1
Is it possible to have a fall wedding that’s not rustic or country themed?? What I want is a wedding that’s outside, in the fall but not really close to those two themes. I know that I want lights, everywhere! Fairy lights, candles, and we’re going to let off chinese floating lanterns at the end of the night. The food that we’re having is going to be comfort food, like soups, pulled pork, mini grilled cheese, mashed potato bar, hot chocolate bar, breads and so on. Because of the food options I was thinking of having it be a “cozy” theme but that seems weird to me, and everytime I try to look something like that up I get country weddings. I want our wedding to be classic and beautiful, but not stuffy and proper. Just a gathering of our families, having a good time in a wedding they’ll remember.
I feel like I’m all over the place…
If anyone has pictures of their own wedding, or pictures that they found online PLEASE post them. Thanks bees 🙂
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Thanks! These pictures are lovely. Maybe my theme is rustic and I don’t want to admit it, since everyone else is doing it lol. I’ll just stear clear of burlap and lace. I LOVE that ceremony setting in the trees!
Post # 5
@keevolpi: You don’t really need to put words to your theme. You can just do what you want.
If you do want words:
Autumn in New York
Here are some pics:
Sometimes, it’s the way materials are used that makes the difference between country and elegant
Post # 6
@keevolpi: Well I think rustic is a great theme :). You can definitely still have an elegent, original wedding with classical elements if your theme is rustic, and there’s a lot more you can do than just lace and burlap. I think rich colors like red, purple, gold, deep orange and navy blue (though not all in the same wedding lol) wth netral accents like deep browns,nudes and beiges would help to make your wedding more classical and add some elegance.
I actually had a lot of fun looking for images (I got a little carried away as you can see) so if you need any more help please don’t hesitate to ask!
BTW I took most of these pics off of my pinterest boards so if you want to source any of the images I’d be happy to find the links for you.
Post # 7
@Ruby-Redshoes: thank you so much! I like the idea of not having a “theme”. Everyone has been asking me what it is, so I guess I felt like I needed one lol. That aisle runner is to die for!
Post # 8
To be honest, I hate the idea of themes all together. This isn’t an attack on you or anyone else on here that has a theme. I’m just sort of under the impression that the theme of a wedding should be “wedding” — as in the marriage of two people. It sounds like the people asking you have been watching too much David Tutera (I’m totally guilty of this, BTW.)
Just do what you and your fiance like, have fun with it, and marry your best friend! You don’t need a theme to share a very special day with your friends and family. You don’t sound all over the place at all — it sounds to me like you’ve carefully incorporated ideas into your wedding that reflect you and your fiance. That is 1 million times better than any theme.
Post # 9
@crackktheskyy: Thank you so much! I am so guilty of watching David Tutera lol. I don’t take this as an attack whatsoever! I take it as a very good eye opener. I’m so much of a people pleaser, that I forget that our wedding is about us (crazy concept huh?). From now on, I’m just going to do what I feel is right for the two of us without the need to explain myself.
Post # 10
You can do absolutely anything you want! Theme, no theme, it’s a wedding. It doesn’t need a theme. But I get what you’re saying about conveying a “feel”. Go with the colors and decor you like, and everything will be perfect!
Post # 11
@keevolpi: Those pictures some of the other bees posted are beautiful! You dont really need a specific theme, your wedding can be its own theme. Everything you described sounds like it flows together well, so what is the point of the theme? Use a color scheme as one, that usually works well.
Post # 11
- Wedding: September 2014 - Lubeznik Center for the Arts
I agree that there’s no need to focus on a theme, but I do think for some people it helps keep things cohesive. We are doing an autumn wedding at an art gallery, so it’s fall and artsy elegance…if we had to pick a theme I guess! LOL – I thought I’d send some of my inspiration photos just for fun!
The top three photos are things that look elegant but will be done in our colors; the last is our color palette.
Post # 12
- Wedding: March 2016 - Modern, Classic, Fun
keevolpi: I hear you on this! Eventually when I will be planning my own wedding (currently a waiting bee) I was thinking of having a classic, elegant fall wedding (because fall is my favorite time of the year and the weather is gorgeous) – but kinda hate the idea of all the fall harvesty colors because it would make the wedding look too matchy matchy/rustic. In my head it always had a black/ivory/lots of lights and candles/gold accents. I guess that’s not a theme but that’s what I pictured. I thought black bridesmaid dresses would look elegant and be anything but rustic and fallish. And even if you wanted cute fall touches like the comfort food you mentioned (which I LOVE that idea) you could have little place cards in elegant white pumpkins or even have them painted with gold paint. Just an idea to tie in fall elements with out the whole wedding being so omgFAllEverything! That’s what I always pictured for mine! Hope those ideas help 🙂
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ellagrace: Yes it does! It’s so frustrating when you want to be different than what everyone else is doing, because there’s almost nothing out there for inspiration. I do like the idea of black bridesmaids dresses, and maybe a pop of color with their shoes 😀
Post # 14
“Rustic” is a pretty broad term and often refers to anything a little more on the casual side. It doesn’t necessarily have anything to do with “country”, burlap, or mason jars.
And you certainly don’t have to have a “rustic” feel for a fall wedding by any means. I’ve seen modern fall weddings with lots of clean lines and glass or metal, traditional elegant weddings, whimsical fall weddings.
You don’t have to have pumpkins, wheat bundles or burlap to make it a fall wedding. As long as you are using more autumnal tones, no matter what feel you go for will express “fall wedding”.