Post # 1
With a lot of time this past 3 day weekend and the Tivo packed with wedding shows, I had a marathon yesterday of "My Fair Wedding", "Platinum Weddings" and "Rich Bride, Poor Bride". I noticed that all of the weddings on these shows have a "theme" to the party. Whether it be the 1950s, south beach, princess/fairytale or a texas rodeo.
I have no theme for my wedding. At this point, its supposed to be a cookie cutter, yet elegant wedding at a country club. Here’s my question to you, is a theme necessary? If so, what is your theme? (and what are you doing to portray your theme?)
Funny tidbit: When I asked my fiance what our theme should be, he said a recession wedding (fiance is a corporate lawyer but is afraid his law firm will have layoffs and so we are trying to save money)… while we jokingly pictured giving food stamps for the guests to give their waiters or a line to get soup, this isn’t the kind of wedding I was going for. Any suggestions that are simple (and cheap!)?
Is it cheezy to have a theme that revolves around us and our relationship? I was thinking of naming our signature drink the place where we got engaged and making the table names places that have significant importance to us.
Post # 3
A theme can be anything from the sorts of things you mentioned like "western" and "fairy tale" to just a color scheme or a particular image. Some people use their monogram on everything, so it becomes the theme basically.
We’re doing a summery daisies and butterflies and TONS of color sort of theme. It mostly just gave us a starting point when it came to visualizing and planning what we wanted things to look like. We’re doing lots of colorful things, like cupcakes in all different colors and stuff, and there are butterflies and daisies on a lot of things, like the favors and the cake.
So a theme is definitely not *necessary* but it can be helpful. It’s totally up to you!
Post # 4
Our "theme" is fruit. It is tied into our wedding both through passages about the Fruit of the Spirit during the sermon and fruit playing a prominent role in our centerpieces, table names, and menu. We are also doing our welcome event at an orchard. Our primary wedding color is also a fruit – raspberry – but that was coincidence.
I do not think that a "theme" is necessary, although having something that is the cohesive element that holds your design elements together is probably helpful. On the other hand, some people go too far in using their theme (as I might be doing). So, at this point "traditional" might be your theme. 🙂
Post # 5
A theme is totally not necessary! It’s just easier for some people to have something to kind of piece everything together for them. But theme or not theme – your wedding will be fabulous!
Post # 6
I don’t think a theme is neccesary as well. I think it depends on your personality and style. But I think a theme does eventually create it’s self in what you choose based on your colors and other items you include in your wedding decor and etc…
Orginally our theme was Happy Endings ( Like Fairy Tales) but we have decided to do a Tiffany themed wedding
Post # 7
I don’t think a theme is necessary either. I have been to a bunch of weddings where they are the way you described it- a ‘cookie cutter wedding’ where there is a bride/groom and guests to celebrate their union. While the wedding’s were ‘cookie cutter’, they were very tasteful, very meaningful… and I can say right off the bat- they had >100 people at them followed by a reception at a hotel conference room.
Do what you speaks to you both. It will be lovely no matter what.
Post # 8
Totally not necessary! We are having a fall wedding in NH so by default we are sort of having a fall fun wedding. I have told my FI that it is "casual chic" and he looks at me like i have 4 heads.
Post # 9
Mine is just a "feel" more than a "theme". My style guidelines are "Old South Meets Old Hollywood". I’m an old fashioned girl. I think the styles of the 40’s and the glamour of hollywood past was fantastic! I also love tradition, and the grace and elegance of a more gentle time in a place that smelled of magnolias and honeysuckle.
That’s what I look for is more a feel than set theme.
Post # 10
I would agree with Bellenga – mine is more of a "feel" than a theme as well. We’re doing retro-glam – think Audrey Hepburn or Marilyn Munro. It’s mostly just reflected in the invitations and fonts that we used – we won’t have any crazy decorations or anything at the reception.
Post # 11
Our ‘theme’ is 1920’s. We’re invoking that feeling through fedora hats, the groom;s white tux, my dress and the reception location. other than that, it’s very modern.
Post # 12
Our "theme" is rustic vintage, with a writing motif. Complex, sure, but it’s us (he’s a country boy, I love antiques, we’re both writers). That’s the most important thing about "theme," I think.