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Are there any wedding-related things that people stress about that you couldn't really care any less about?

For me, it's things like:

* A card box - do I even need to have one??

* The guest book - I know why we should have one, I just feel so apathetic toward doing anything creative with it. I hope inspiration strikes me soon.

* Transportation - Um, what's wrong with just driving a regular old car to your venue?

* Having lots of "entertainment" - We're giving people free drinks, good food, and (hopefully) good music and plenty of space to dance. Why would I need further entertainment in the form of slideshows, games, garter and bouquet tossing, etc? Why isn't having a good dinner & some dancing entertainment enough?

* A grand exit - I'm planning to stay & party down the entire night, so why would I need a big farewell send off? I think many of the guests will have gone home by then anyway.

I don't mean to sound like I'm anti-wedding, or that I don't obsess over tiny details. I am all about working on things like decorations and favors. It's just the things listed above that make me go, "Who cares???"

@Baileyh: Ugh, tulle! Most of the time, it looks so 1980's to me!

@camrie: Good point about the BP & drinking & driving. I'm think I'm going to make sure we have someone in charge of getting people taxis as needed.

@TamiN:Interesting! I have been to so few weddings where there is a big sendoff, so I just figured people would know to leave whenever they want. Maybe it's a regional thing?

@bells:I hear you on the bachelorette party and shower. I think they add unneeded stress and can be pretty hokey. But I'm excited about the rehearsal dinner, because I think it will give us a chance to relax with our BP and out-of-town guests before all the stress of the big day. My FPIL are having it at their house, and we've requested pizza or pasta for dinner, so it should be pretty relaxed & hopefully not a big financial burden!

I feel the exact same way you do about a lot of odds and ends with a wedding. I thought maybe I was just weird since I didnt care. Glad Im not the only one!

I could care less about * Transportation too.

No one is really going to see us take off in his truck anyways. Save us a couple of 100 there.

@futuremjm:Mini sheep? For real? I'm dying to know what you ended up doing with that one! Regift? Goodwill? Displayed prominently on your fireplace mantle? ;)

I do like the idea of favors, but only ones you can eat. I'm making raspberry-dark chocolate ganache-filled truffles for the favors. Yum! We are also not having cake since neither of us like it, and doing cheesecake petit fours instead. So having the truffles is also my safeguard in case some guests don't like cheesecake. They can just eat their favors for dessert instead, then!

I agree about transportation. If I had a bigger budget, I'd rent a limo, but I don't, so…meh. I'm planning on asking my mom's husband if we can borrow his sports car for a send-off and drive it to their house, so at least we'll be leaving in a nice car.

I do care about paper/stationery, but only because I'm a graphic designer and can do it all professionally for cheap. :)

I'll be doing a cardbox for the reasons @camrie stated, more for functionality than anything else (ease of carrying cards, cards won't get lost, etc.).

Entertainment…we're planning a DIY photobooth, but other than the DJ and that, none.

The one thing I don't care about that a lot of people do are fresh flowers and centerpieces. Our venue does floating candles in their package, which I'm totally on board with (don't have to worry about it).

Actually, there is a lot of stuff I couldn't care less about as long as it looks nice, which is why I got a venue that does 80% of it all. ;)

My turn! I don't really care about:

-Card box (I think I'm just going to buy a basket in my wedding colors and call it a day);

-Guestbook (I don't really care but it's expected, so I bought a book and pen set for $15, yay!);

-Transportation (but both FH and I will be drinking, so we'll probably have to get a town car to take us to our hotel after the wedding);

-Dancing;

-Garter toss (definitely not doing it) and bouquet toss (I got guilted into planning this);

-Elaborate centerpieces and upgraded linens/china/etc;

-Wedding invitation suites;

-DJ (we're doing an iPod);

-Ceremony flowers (we're getting married on a yacht in a nice harbor area so the scenery will be "decoration" enough);

-Bridal shower;

-Engagement photos;

-Matching BM dresses, shoes, jewelry, hair style, etc;

-Videographer;

-Ceremony programs (I'm not doing them-- my ceremony will be maybe 15 minutes. I think my guests can do without them.); and

-Favors (skipping those).

Woo, makes me feel good to let that out! And I guess recognize that if I did care about all those things, my stress level would be a hell of a lot higher and the wedding would be so much more expensive.