Post # 1
Are there any wedding-related things that people stress about that you couldn’t really care any less about?
For me, it’s things like:
* A card box – do I even need to have one??
* The guest book – I know why we should have one, I just feel so apathetic toward doing anything creative with it. I hope inspiration strikes me soon.
* Transportation – Um, what’s wrong with just driving a regular old car to your venue?
* Having lots of “entertainment” – We’re giving people free drinks, good food, and (hopefully) good music and plenty of space to dance. Why would I need further entertainment in the form of slideshows, games, garter and bouquet tossing, etc? Why isn’t having a good dinner & some dancing entertainment enough?
* A grand exit – I’m planning to stay & party down the entire night, so why would I need a big farewell send off? I think many of the guests will have gone home by then anyway.
I don’t mean to sound like I’m anti-wedding, or that I don’t obsess over tiny details. I am all about working on things like decorations and favors. It’s just the things listed above that make me go, “Who cares???”
Post # 3
My half-sister was an encore bride and didn’t want a big “send off”… and because people kept waiting for her to leave, the reception just dragged on and on and on….
So… if you don’t want a big send off, just make sure you let everyone know (ahead of time) that you want them to leave before you do 🙂
Post # 4
We are definitely not spending money on transportation. We’re just going to leave in my FI’s Saab. Nice enough if you ask me.
I don’t really care about shoes. I just want to wear some inexpensive, comfortable flats.
Not too interested in a wedding cake. We’re thinking of skipping it entirely. Just seems like a lot of money I’d rather spend on something else.
Post # 5
@Bubu82: I didnt really care about these things either but did them anyways in a manner that was so simple that it didnt really faze me.
Card box was just a birdcage
Guest book was just a photobook of our engagement pics
Transportation was a limo (as per DH’s request)
No entertainment for guests, unless you count free booze and a DJ/dance (which i do!) We had the reception RIGHT after the ceremony anyways.
As for the send off…we didnt have one…we were there right till the “bitter” end and it was awesome! People said good bye as they left and then we just sauntered out with the rest of the family!! 🙂 (at 1:00 am!!!)
Post # 6
@Bubu82: I hear you on so much of that stuff!
My big thing that I couldn’t care less about was my paper. I didn’t care what the heck my programs looked like, or my invitations. They were all going in the garbage at the end of the day anyway, so why spend a lot of time/money on them??
Post # 7
I dont care about pre-wedding activities such as showers, bach parties, reheasal dinners.. I find that these just place more financial burden on the wedding party. I’m getting married and I want a wedding and dont need an entire sequence of events leading up to it.
Post # 8
Things i didnt care about
Tulle and lights!!!
My invitations..they go in the trash..i made them look nice but didnt care much about them.
What dresses my BM’s chose or what their shoes looked like
My bachlorette. I wanted one but i didnt care what we did.
Post # 9
Glad I’m not the only one that thinks this way too! I find myself questioning why I’m so passive about most things with my wedding when usually I’m a perfectionist with EVERYTHING else in life. I guess it’s just my way of keeping the stress level down! Who knows! I just hope I’m not being too passive about everything and it will all still end up really nice in the end! LOL
Post # 10
@Baileyh: I’m with you on the tulle!
Post # 11
@Bubu82: We didnt have a card box and it wasnt a big deal. Our venue was totally private so guests just left their cards on a table next to our guestbook. I enjoyed having a guestbook because I like to see what people wrote to us. We did not have any wedding transportation but thats because our venue was walking distance from where me and Darling Husband were staying. We did not have lots of entertainment. It was just a regular old wedding with great food, music, dancing and friends. I think people still had a lot of fun! We did a grand exit because we were leaving to our hotel by boat so everyone came down to the dock to wave goodbye. It essentially was the end of the wedding because after we left people just hung out a little bit while things were getting packed up.
Post # 12
I was the same way! I nixed everything I didn’t see the point in. Don’t do anything you don’t want to do.
The only reason having a card box is nice is so that people don’t just put their cards on a gift table where they can get lost by being dropped on the floor, kicked under a table, or the WORST (if you’re in a public place like a hotel) – stolen. But it doesn’t have to be anything fancy at all.
I didn’t like guest books either (I never know what to write) so we did guest “cards” where people could write us little notes if they wanted. That way I didn’t end up with a book with 2 pages of “Congrats, Love, So-and-so” and a bunch of blank space. I ended up mounting them in the back and front our our wedding album…much more meaningful.
We didn’t have special transportation because we didn’t have a bridal party. It makes sense if you’re going to an area that has lots of traffic or a really bad parking situation BUT it’s also a good way to safegaurd against your bridal party drinking and driving home.
Post # 13
One of my bridesmaids said that she was required to get a French manicure by a Bride so that all her bridesmaid’s nails would match. That level of micromanaging is definitely not something I care about.
Post # 14
Yay, this is a fun (and good-for-your-mental-health) game.
Things I REALLY don’t care about – i.e., not having them at the wedding:
Dancing, dj/band, bridal party, ceremony music, programs, tosses, grand entrance/exit, unity ceremony, special entertainment, favors, shower, registry, rented transportation (except for our guests – there’s a free shuttle for them between the hotel and the wedding)
Things I’m having but don’t feel strongly about/need to micro-manage:
Floral arrangements, guestbook type thing, cake topper, invites, Out of Town bags, rehearsal dinner
Things I DO care about:
FOOD! Cake, drinks, dress, shoes, music playlist, ring…people. I care about the people who are coming and that they have a good time. This occasionally makes me anxious about the no-dancing thing, but our wedding is basically a cocktail-and-dinner-party, and people have fun at parties without dancing, right?
Post # 15
@Baileyh: Ugh, tulle! Most of the time, it looks so 1980’s to me!
@camrie: Good point about the Bridal Party & drinking & driving. I’m think I’m going to make sure we have someone in charge of getting people taxis as needed.
@TamiN:Interesting! I have been to so few weddings where there is a big sendoff, so I just figured people would know to leave whenever they want. Maybe it’s a regional thing?
@bells:I hear you on the bachelorette party and shower. I think they add unneeded stress and can be pretty hokey. But I’m excited about the rehearsal dinner, because I think it will give us a chance to relax with our Bridal Party and out-of-town guests before all the stress of the big day. My FPIL are having it at their house, and we’ve requested pizza or pasta for dinner, so it should be pretty relaxed & hopefully not a big financial burden!
Post # 16
I feel the exact same way you do about a lot of odds and ends with a wedding. I thought maybe I was just weird since I didnt care. Glad Im not the only one!