Wedding things trashed by another bride

posted 3 years ago in DIY
Post # 3
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1779 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@ricangen81:  It sounds less like the problem was being nice and more like the lady was completely irresponsible with your items. I don’t think I would be as close or generous with this person again.

Post # 5
Hostess
8680 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

So sorry that happened!

I learned a LONG time ago not to “lend” things to people. Anything I do lend, I fully expect not the recieve back. Past experiances have taught me that most people don’t treat “borrowed” items as nicely as they would their own, since they didn’t have to spend money to purchase them.

Post # 6
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852 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@ricangen81:  Sorry this happened, its sad, if your going to borrow stuff…you should look after it better than your own in my opinion. I hope the things were not too sentimental.

It happened to my Mum, she loaned her headdress (a cap type thing) and viel to a friends sister. The sister ripped the cap off the viel and then burnt the veil ironing it. Mum is the type to keep things, her wedding dress, her mum’s wedding dress and soon my wedding dress are all together in the loft.

Post # 8
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1110 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Never ever lend anything you actually want to get back. This goes double for money. I’m sorry you had to learn this lesson the hard way.

Post # 9
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6882 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - A castle!

I always ask myself “Is this something that I would end a friendship over if I don’t get it back?” when lending money or items to people. I would never lend an amount of money to someone that would ruin our friendship if I wasn’t paid back. Same goes with sentimental things. Sorry this happened to you!!

Post # 10
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3557 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

The only thing I lend is books I’ve already read, and only to a select group of people, most of which I have lived with/been neighbors with in the past. I learned the hard way about money and other objects and it’s easier to just not do it anymore.

Post # 11
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2851 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Well, I guess this was a lesson learned. What a shame; but it’s to be expected with a lot of people, unfortunately :/

Post # 12
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808 posts
Busy bee

@ricangen81:  Oh dear, that’s a bit of a slap in the face to do something nice and have it finish like that. I think all you can do now is just more carefully consider who you lend things to next time (and definitely not to these people!).

Post # 14
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243 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Sorry to hear this happened to you.  When this happened to us (literally had someone shop/borrowing during our wedding) we told them flat out that they could have first dibs on the things we were going to sell BUT they had to buy them. 

 

Surprisingly they got upset with us that they couldn’t just borrow the things, but I knew them well enough to know that they wouldn’t be returned in the same shape they got them in.

 

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