(Closed) Wedding this year, reception next year?

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: Would you consider doing this?
    Yes, if it'll save some money and you'll be covered under his insurance : (19 votes)
    53 %
    No, because it won't really feel like a wedding and you'll regret it : (10 votes)
    28 %
    Yes, other (post) : (4 votes)
    11 %
    No, other (post) : (3 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 3
    Hostess
    18646 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I would do it.  You can make the ceremony special and it will still be more than just a normal day.  Also, I think that you will probably receive gifts at your reception even though you are already married.

    Post # 7
    Member
    1403 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Lots of people have receptions several months after the wedding for various reasons.  Often it’s because they eloped without telling anyone.  🙂

    Some friends of mine got married a year early for legal reasons (they obtained a fiance visa for the groom and had 90 days to get married before the visa expired).  They had a small courthouse wedding and invited close family to dinner immediately afterward.  The next year they went through the religious ceremony, reception, and the whole grand affair.  I didn’t find it awkward at all, but perhaps that’s because they still had the religious piece to complete.

    What if you have your courthouse ceremony on November 11th of this year and have a renewal of vows on your one-year anniversary?  Some people will probably want to send you gifts when they hear about your “first wedding.”  It would probably be ok to create a registry in case anyone asks, but don’t publicize it until closer to the reception (and any bridal showers that get thrown for you).

    Post # 8
    Member
    1161 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    You know your financial situation the best.  I’d say there is a chance that you’d benefit enough from having health insurance for an extra year to totally make up for any lost gifts.

    I do think some people will buy you gifts around your actual wedding, and I think a lot of people will buy you gifts for your reception next year.

    I agree that the registry is a little tricky in this situation.  If you do one, I’d definitely NOT include the information on the party invites and just let it be a deal where you tell the people who ask about it.

    Post # 10
    Member
    435 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    Is November 11th not something in the states??  I know in Canada it is Rememberance day and I thought the States ‘celebrated’ Ventrans Day or something.  Is it appropriate to have your wedding on that day?

    Why not get married shortly and then have a spring wedding?

    Post # 11
    Member
    1161 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    I think the after wedding bridal shower might be odd.

    Post # 14
    Member
    1893 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    Lots of people do it and if it makes sense, then go for it.  Can you get added onto his insurance policy another way, though?  I know of a few people who have their SO, who they aren’t married to, listed on their insurance. I don’t think you have to actually be married to do it, depending on the type of policy. 

    Post # 15
    Member
    2781 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I know a girl who did this recently. She’s still planning on having a great big reception and she says that now she’s already legally married she doesn’t feel as much pressure and she’s enjoying just planning a big party and maybe they’ll renew their vows – just to remind each other of how important they are in each others lives.

    I say go for it if you want to. 

    Post # 16
    Member
    1641 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    A wedding is a beautiful, special day. But in my opinion, having insurance is so much more important. If I had to choose, it would be a no brainer. Renewal of vows would be lovely a year later. You could still register then.

    If you really feel taht the courthouse thing is going to bum you out, you could just take very close family with you, and have a nice dinner or lunch afterward with those you are closest with.

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