Post # 1
When we first started the planning process and picked the date and church we were kind of forced to take a 1:00pm time slot b/c there was already another wedding scheduled. I was pretty upset about it but what can you do? Well then the chapel calls me to let me know that the 4:00 wedding was cancelled and I can have that time. YAY!!!! SO EXCITED!!! I know its only a small difference but it will make everything flow SO much better. Well this actually created a problem. His cousin is graduating high school that same evening at 7:00pm (a fact we discovered 2 weeks after we paid deposits), so since we moved the time from 1:00 to 4:00 we knot that family (his aunt, uncle, and 3 cousins) will no longer be able to attend. They live 3 hours away from the wedding location and I am very skeptical that they would have even drive down for the 1/2 hour ceremony to begin with just to drive right back, but thats another story. Well he still hasn’t informed his side of the family that the wedding time has moved. He figures we still have another year why make them mad now, and its driving me CRAZY! We changed the time over a month ago! What is keeping him from telling them? Am I missing something here?
Post # 3
I don’t see why it matters, you aren’t sending out invitations for months and months and they won’t make plans until it gets closer.
Post # 4
Yeah, the wedding isn’t for a year… I wouldn’t stress about it now.
Post # 5
The invites will let them know when you send them 🙂
Post # 6
Yeah I agree with the PP. I don’t think I have even told people what time my wedding is, that’s what the invitation is for! I wouldn’t stress about this.
Post # 7
And from personal experience, most guys are just lazy when it comes to those kinds of things!! But I agree, let them make their plans when the invitations are sent out. They probably won’t even notice that the time was changed because they probably didn’t take note of the 1:00 time…
Post # 8
My issue is that his mom keeps talking about making a “plan” for what to do with the time gap b/c the reception will not be until 6:30. Like she’s brought up the idea of renting a restaurant or scheduling a tour to take place during that time. Plus every single person in his family believes the wedding is at 1:00pm. I feel like its being deceitful not to tell them it changed. And on another note, this family won’t be able to go…I kind of want them to know that. The wedding is a “destination” wedding of sorts so people will be getting hotels and such and I want to give them as much info as possible before hand.
Post # 9
Well in that case he needs to at least tell his mom. No need for her to be worrying herself about filling a time gap that no longer exists.
Post # 10
I would let his mom know of the change then. She can tell people if they ask. She shouldn’t be planning anything yet though since it’s your responsibility not hers.
Post # 11
I wouldn’t worry too much about the one family. I’m going to doubt they would have gone if it was at 1 or 4. But I would tell his mom though.
Post # 12
So next time she brings up wanting to schedule something in the dead time between the ceremony and reception then just casually oh Fiance didn’t tell you we were able to get the 4pm time we wanted so now we don’t have to plan anything and our timeline will fit better. I wouldn’t worry about the other guests as it isn’t close enough for them to start making concrete plans, but if his mom is helping to plan she needs to be in the loop.
Post # 13
I don’t think you are crazy for wondering. You already know that there is another family event going on the day of your wedding. If his side of the family knows now, that might make things easier for planning his cousins graduation party. His fam could be planning a graduation party for later that day thinking wedding attendees could travel to the grad party…but, if you moved the wedding to a later time, that might create some complications.
Post # 14
Agree with DaisyLynn- tell them now, but make it casual… because they WILL ask you later about when you knew. Unless you are comfortable with lying that could result in some aggravation if people have planned parties and such in the meantime. Congrats for getting the slot you wanted.
Post # 15
I think its weird he won’t tell his family. If his mom is planning things than he needs to call her like tonight and tell her. AND if an entire family will be unable to go I think the more time you give the better. Nothing like waiting a few months for the wedding for 5 people to find out the trip they planned wont happen.