(Closed) HELP!! Wedding Time Drama!!!!!

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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166 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Your FH needs to handle this. I know you said it saves you money but is there a way to move the wedding back to 1:00? It seems like it would be important for his grandmother, aunt, uncle, and cousins to be there.

Post # 4
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2054 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

@MrsPinkPeony: I think it may be in your best interest to move it back to 1…thats a lot of the fam that wont be able to make it! Is there a way you can cut somewhere else so that you can still have your phototog and an early wedding?

Post # 6
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1243 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

It’s always craptacular when you think that you’re doing something to help and it just makes things worse.  🙁

Here’s what I would do: you FI has either got to step up or you have to make an uncomfortable phone call.  You have to tell them what you’ve done and why.  

I don’t understand why your FI won’t deal with this because (and this sucks, but I’ve noticed that it’s true) if you’re the one to tell them , you’re the one who will most likely get blamed.  My rule is “My family-my crappy conversations. Your family- your crappy conversations.”   It kind of seems like your FI is hanging you out to dry on this.  I completely understand the uncommunicative with family FI (I have one myself) and it’s led to some interesting situations.  However, this isn’t like he didn’t tell them what flowers you were using or what colour your bridesmaid dresses are…he didn’t tell them when the ceremony is.  He has to take care of this and I think that he needs to do this sooner rather then later.  

If he doesn’t call them (I’d give him a time limit…sounds crappy but the longer this goes on the more uncomfortable its going to be) and then you call.  Say something like “we had an opportunity to change the time of our wedding to 4pm, and we did it…we thought this would help everyone out because there won’t be a huge gap, etc.  At the time, we didn’t know about the graduation.  I feel awful about this, but we can’t switch the time back because it’s already been booked.  Do you have any suggestions about how we can fix this so that people can make both events?”  Maybe try to turn it into a brain-storming session about how to fix the problem.  

I’m sure that you can figure something out!  Good luck!

Post # 7
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8354 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

The only think that I can think of in this situation is to change the day. Maybe the day before or the day after the graduation. That is what I would do. Schools won’t change the date of graduation and the parents probably didn’t know the date until just before they let you know.

Post # 9
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166 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Does he realize the longer he waits the worse it will be? Really I don’t see a fix to this so it best to just tell them to see how they’ll handle it.

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