- 4 years ago
- Wedding: July 2014
Back-story :FI and I got engaged a few weeks ago (yea!!!). We honestly just sort of talked about it and agreed that we both wanted to rather than doing a proposal. I’m happy as a clam but I’m an anxious planner and details are invading my brain. I try not to be over the top, I just like to be prepared early or I get stressed out. I also research the heck out of everything to make sure I have all the details I need. I have a ton going on in my life with work/finances/parenting/moving etc. so I want to make sure we get things sorted out early.
We have briefly discussed having the ceremony next spring/summer. We would most likely be having it at his Dad’s church (he is a pastor) so that would all be free, and having a BBQ in the park area next to the Church. They don’t allow alcohol so we would probably just go to a fun bar after to further celebrate with those that drink. Granted most of this is what I’ve planned in my head because we haven’t talked about it. We are on a very tight budget so we need to keep everything super minimal.
I’ve tried to bring some details up with him on A) trying to confirm a date because churches can get busy with weddings ! and B) just hashing out some ideas like the above but…..
I told him that most people start planning 1 year/ 6m in advance and he just laughed! (not in a mean way, but in a dismissive tone) and said we can talk about it later. I’ve brought it up twice and had the same reaction and he changes the subject. Should I just leave it alone for now? I’m worried that perhaps just being engaged has been enough of a stressor for him and he doesn’t want to deal the wedding part yet. Advice?