- 6 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
I’ve been tearing my hair out over what to do about food at our wedding and it’s getting to be too much. I’d like to hear what other brides have to say. I guess I’ll start with some background:
My fiance comes from a very large family. His initial guest list was about fifty people and they were all family; no friends. I come from the very opposite. My preliminary list of fifty people only had about five family members. While this has been an issue in just about EVERY detail, right now it’s coming to a head over food.
We are on a very limited budget and were initially planning to pay for it ourselves. Now, after talking with his parents, they’ve offered to give us some money and while it’s generous, it still keeps us on a small budget. I suggested renting a tent and having some casual food like pizza/pastas/sandwiches because I’d like to have a nice/long reception and know I’ll have to provide some food to do that. This was immediately shot down because he and his family want “a proper meal.” But they didn’t really tell me what that means. Essential, my vision is too cheap and tacky and I couldn’t possibly understand why a sit-down meal tradition is necessary because I don’t come from a big family. Yet when I really tried to understand and (ended up) arguing with his mother, she finally lost it and said “does it really matter?! You won’t even remember what you ate so why don’t you stop worrying about it.”
Ahem…isn’t that the argument I was trying to make? If no one will remember, why would I spend $50/person if I could get away with the SAME AMOUNT OF FOOD for only $20/person?! Sigh…
If you were at a casual outdoor wedding, would you expect a sit-down, catered, plated dinner? Won’t salad/dinner/cake be enough? I don’t understand why we need a five-course meal that people probably won’t even eat anyway. Help me understand so I can stop being mad about it!