- 9 years ago
- Wedding: September 2009
My professor in grad school, Judy Grahn, wrote a beautiful book, Blood Bread and Roses.
It’s a little off the wall, but it’s cool because she cross-culturally examines taboos and traditions of menstruation rites and how they created consciousness in humans. She points out how we can still see the skeletons of those rites today. A major place we see that is in WEDDINGS!
I just love this passage and I want to share it with all of you:
"At the one wedding I have attended, when the flower girls appeared at the back of the church, and when the bride, gleaming white on her parent’s arm, began her walk down the red carpet path, I did what I’m told women always do, I wept. (So did my girlfriend’s father.) We see her, the moon walking on earth, and she is our eternity and our mortality, and we both adore and mourn. We see the groom’s unease, and his human courage to combine with the terrible mystery of life and death, his desire to conform to the restrictions of fidelity and paternity. We see his fragility, and hers,<span class=”pagebreak”> and their nobility; they stretch us backward and forward in time. We call the reason for our weeping "her beauty.""
I wish you all that beauty and nobility.