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Ok, we don't post or wedding trend pet peeves all out right because we realize us bees have a mutitude of varying styles and preferences. You know, you stumble across a post with this topic and you cringe, while mentally saying "oh no, please anyting but __________"!!!!
We don't mean to be rude, so we skip the post and go on our merry way, realizing that there are A MILLION DIFFERENT WAYS TO HAVE A BEAUTIFUL WEDDING.
But, 'fes up in this poll: What makes you cringe? You can vote on multiples, if need be...
@ Sulli, LOL. It's hard to think of what to include. Just tried to think of things I've gathered over time that some people love and some people hate!!
i'm sick of dresses that look more like comforters than they do wedding dresses!
not to mention those tacky mustaches on the end of sticks.... those are horrible.
I suppose I can understand people's liking of pick-ups on dresses and monograms, but personally, I just can't like them no matter how hard I try. I just think pick-ups are going to be today's version of the shoulder pad dresses in the 80s. (Although I still think my aunts looked beautiful, in all of their gowns, shoulder pads and all!)
I just don't get the doughnut trend. I work in an office, nothing says crappy Monday morning to me more than a doughnut.
But, I love the mustache on a stick, so, see! Everyone has a different POV.
I second the dress looking like a down comforter. I die a little each time I see that. The most beautiful of girls looks horrible in that type of a dress. Sorry I dont mean to offend really...I love those dresses, but they look more for a fashion shoot or something then to be on a person.
oh and i absolutely over colored gowns-- especially white dresses with red embroidery/red trimmed veils, red trains. Although i will say the traditional red dresses worn in Indian culture are absolutely gorgeous--- just not the dresses that are traditionally all white.
ooohhhhhh ok! got it! lol Yeah.. it's not my style, that's probably why I'd never heard of it haha
Uuuugh have to jump on the "dislike pickups" bandwagon. I think they're awful. And I hate dresses with colored sashes. Champagne, gray, light pink--those are okay. Red, green, blue (basically anything matching the 'maids)--I hate. I also hate the "flip flops with wedding dress look". I know, it's comfortable, but it seems so mismatched to me!
I am sure we all have a list of stuff we don't like to see..... but will a thread like this make girls who have __________ (bought a pick-up dress, are using cupcakes) just feel bad? Do we need to share what we dislike so much that it is worth offending others?
Flip Flops hahah ohh nooo I will dieeee in my heels if I have to..I think that's what flats are for now. Flip Flops just look bad ha
In the end...everyone will do what they like with their money. If you want a pickup go get it...its something I wouldn't do, but I think we all agree there are things we would and wouldn't do. No one should feel bad. And I hope no one has with anything I posted.
@Janna, I think as VirginaMarie said, there are a million different ways to have a beautiful wedding. I"m sure we each have something that another bride would hate. I certainly mean no offense by my comments, and I would hope that we all have thick enough skin and are confident enough in our choices to understand that not everyone will love the same things we do.
I think that as long as 1. people are sensitive in the wordings of their dislikes and 2. people who have these things in their weddings are confident in their choices, this thread should be alright. Who cares what others think? It's your wedding, and your style is your style. Rock it!
Janna presents a good point. My intentions were not for anyone to be offended... Just for us to express our dislikes secretly (via poll), or a bit louder I guess...
I, for one, am incorporating some of the things on that list in my own wedding. I am just most amazed that what's gorgeous and perfect to one brides is cringe worthy to another! Hey--it's what makes the world go 'round!
@Janna19 I think we all know all too well that discussing our wedding can get pretty sensitive; however its also no secret that we all have our prefrences! No harm no foul, right?
I think it is fine for some perspective. I am having a candy buffet, colored shoes, a birdcage veil, and a tapas dinner (which I'm sure some people will think is the ugly step sister of the buffet) but I don't mind seeing that people don't like it. If anything, it is prep.
up to you guys - saying "pickups are awful" when a lot of girls out there buy pick up dresses doesn't seem all that sensitive to me. I was just throwing it out there that this thread could upset people....
I can see why some people like them but I do NOT like monogrammed cake toppers..especially rhinestone ones!
I think you can have a great wedding and use them and they'll look just fine...but I just don't think it is that classy but I'm not a very flashy person I guess as far as that goes
I think too many pick-ups can be really bad (when the dress just looks like a pile of cool-whip), but also can be tastefully done. I really like the pick-ups on my wedding dress (obviously). If others don't, well, don't care.
mine:
too far :X :
I don't hate the trend of mismatched bridesmaids dresses per se, but I hate the self-righteous attitude of some of the brides who are doing this towards those whose bridesmaids will match. Congrats, that's great your vision for a wedding is so laid-back. I personally love getting all decked out and glamorous for a formal wedding, so mine will at least match in color and designer for a cohesive look. Different strokes for different folks, man.
I also think the "surprise" wild first dance is getting REALLY overdone (along with "surprise" wild entrances, thanks to the Chris Brown entrance party sensation). Who'd actually be surprised by this now? There are like thirty-thousand examples of it on youtube.
Agreed w/ Janna - I totally voted but I'm going to decline to share. EXCEPT non-functional wedding favors because it's more of a plea to people not to waste their money because as a guest it's just something I don't want or need. Give me something I can eat.
Colored dresses are hideous! and the "surprise" wild first dance its like really!? your just copying couples from youtube...they are alll the same!
@Vegan glam--love your dress girl!
@kitty--lol, FEED ME BY WAY OF YOUR FAVOR!!!!
@Janna, maybe I should have clarified. I think pickups are awful for my own dress; it's not my style at all. Having said that, I have seen about a million brides in pickup dresses (since they're so popular) and they all look gorgeous and glowing and happy. Do I love their dresses? No. Do I think they look like beautiful brides? Absolutely. But if I've offended anyone, I do apologize. It wasn't my intention.
@veganglam: I voted against pick-ups, but I DO love your dress! It's stunning. I guess pick ups can be done right!
But really everyone knows that even at their own wedding there are things not every person is going to love. And if your family is anything like mine, they feel the need to tell you how THEY would do it several times down the line. No one is personally attacking anyone in this thread, we all have different ideas of what is ideal-- thats what makes this whole community so fun!
But all that being said the only thing on that list is that my bridesmaids are all picking out their own black cocktail dresses (per an okay). I like the idea of having my girls look best in their dresses. They are all built differently and having the same dress on each of them might make a few look great and the others look a hot mess. This way they can buy a dress they like, in their budget, that they will certainly wear again. Nothing anyone will say against mismatched bridesmaids will make me change my mind about it OR make me feel like its not formal enough :)
Man snake, I am so sorry to hear about your 'outspoken' family (if anyone criticizes my wedding AT my wedding, they're getting decked. :P) I don't think there's anything wrong with us sharing our opinions here in a kind manner, or offering solicited advice, but criticizing others' personal choices, which they're excited about, due to mere aesthetic preferences can be really rude.
And glad my pick-ups have been 'approved' by some of the bees, hee hee.
I really dislike birdcage veils.. I know they are super-popular, but I don't know... I just never liked the look of them. Not ot offend of course ;)
Also, I happen to have had a red-accented wedding dress. All white with red embroidered viney flower pattern on the upper portion of it. It was SO NOT what I ever imagined wearing to my wedding, but when I put it on it just fit. I know a lot of people wouldn't have picked it for themselves, but I got more compliments on that dress than I ever expected.
To each her own :)
nonfunctional wedding favors!! they just get thrown away. personally, i love edible or donation favors, but to each their own.
Ok we all know, everyone has different tastes. I don't see anything wrong with saying you don't like something..
@okqueenbee--AMEN to that. To each her own, for sure. I bet you look absolutely fab in that dress. In the real world (eg: everything outsifr of weddingbee.com, I don't share many/any of the details of my wedding with ANYONE but my mom. Not even my bridesmaids...I just don't care to hear my guest's opinion about things I love.
As much as my taste disagrees with some of the things in the poll, and a number of other wedding choices, about the only thing I would actively advise against doing is the surprise first dance or entrance. I agree that they can be totally fun, but you are robbing yourself of a very special moment to do them.
If you really want to do a number, I would advise placing it later in the evening, actually. That is what I'm doing. I am a totall cheese ball and love karaoke (like, I go three or four times a month). We are having karaoke mixed in with the dancing, and my MOH and I are planning a dance and duet, quite possibly to "Push It" by Salt n Pepa. I think we will save it until past 10, though. And it is for my guests, it will not be on YouTube.
@Monitajb--What do we have to do to get you to post that on youtube?!?!? hahaha pwitty peaseeee? ;) lol! j/k!!!
I voted but I don't feel the need to share beyond that. I agree that this thread could easily hurt some brides who feel that they picked the wrong choices because a certain group doesn't like them. But if that is what they like and fits their personal style, then they should stay true to who they are. If someone did choose any combination of the above listed elements, would it really cause guests to not enjoy the wedding just because they have their own personal preferences that lean toward the opposite of what the couple chose? It shouldn't but unfortunately there are people out there who are that petty in that if they don't agree with every single detail, it completely ruins the event for them. Those people have no business attending since they are there for the wrong reason. In the end, celebrating the new couple's union is the reason for the wedding in the first place and those who truly love and support them should be able to enjoy themselves despite aesthetics (which all of those are) that they don't necessarily like personally. If the guest doesn't like those things, they can pick their own aesthetics when it's their turn. If the couple wants to do everything the same as every other couple in the world or if they want to do something that fits who they are that does not fit the norm, why should it matter to anyone else? It's not a breach of etiquette that puts the guests in awkward situations. The wedding will be special no matter what, not just because someone else thinks they are robbing themselves of anything. That's for them to decide what they want.
Btw, buffets are no more a trend than any other food layout. I've heard more hate toward appetizer/dessert receptions at a non-meal time than I have toward full meals. Again, in the end, it's the couple's decision and none of those are right or wrong.
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