(Closed) wedding values: what is MOST and LEAST important to you?

posted 7 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
2584 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

My personal priority was our photographer, and after getting a sneak peek of our engagement shoot, I’m SO glad we’re splurging there!

For guests, I think food/cake, music, and that time between the ceremony and reception stick out a lot. We’re not really splurging though… we’re having a pizza and fried chicken buffet with a few delicious sides, homemade cake, a laptop with music that we know our guests will love, and our ceremony is at a historical village the guests can explore in their down time so they aren’t bored.

I agree that no one will remember centerpieces or flowers much, so we’re cutting down in those areas. Also, the invitations- no one really keeps them except the couple, so we’re keeping them pretty simple.

Post # 4
83 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

My priorities were

1. Venue

2. Photographer

3. Food!

The least important aspects for me were cake and transportation.  That may just be because I can’t eat wheat/sugar so I reallly don’t care about the cake!  And I’m getting married just a few kilometers away and the ceremony and reception are at the same place so I have no desire to spend a lot for a 5-10 minutes drive.

Post # 5
929 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

For our wedding we prioritised as such:

1. Food and Alcohol (i don’t separate them because to me they go hand in hand)

2. Venue

3. Music

We scrimped on almost everything so that we could afford the highest tier food and booze, chose our venue in about the first 2 minutes of entering the place (1st place we looked at) and have been to see our band play about 5 times since booking them.  We’re INCREDIBLY happy with all our choices!  We’re not really picture people (don’t have albums or any pictures of ourselves in our apartment) so we went for the cheapest package of the cheapest photog we could find – we just wanted the requisite few shots that we will likely put into a folder on the computer and never look at again. 

Post # 6
351 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Mine would be:

1. Food

2. Music

3. Photography

Venue is important. But I know we can’t afford where I’d really like to have our wedding at. I’m okay with that, as long as the place has enough space and clean bathrooms I’m good to go!

I would also say dessert….but that is because I’ll be making the dessert buffet. 

Post # 7
3978 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

The only thing for me was: price balanced by quality.

There was really no discussion at all about where we’d have it. My family church was cheap, pretty, and convenient. Decor, flowers, staffing, and cake was all done with friends or family which was a great balance of price and quality (because I have a talented circle). Our biggest expenses were photography and food (1k each) because we hired outside people to do that–but I scoured the web for deals and got very good quality vendors–got zero negative feedback.

Based on what we actually spent the rating would be food, photography, location/decor, dress (but each of those were within $100 of the next in line, so not really enough of a difference to matter).

We spent nothing on music (friends played and reception was ipod) and nothing on alcohol (our circle doesn’t really drink)

Post # 8
3049 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

Mine was:

1. Photography

2. Dress

3. Music

But of course that would be different for guests… I’m guessing:

1. Food/Alcohol

2. Music

3. Venue

Post # 9
500 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Top Priority

1. Venue

2. Photographer

3. Music

4. Food


Bottom Priority

1. Cake

2. Flower

3. Transportation

Post # 10
15 posts

Food is always the most important thing. For me:

1. Food & Drink

2. Venue

3. Photograther

I prefer buffet since everyone has different taste and appetite, plus it will be much comfortable for the guests, people don’t need to sit there for a long time and you could know more friends through chatting lol~~

As for the Venue, I don’t need a very big place or a very elegant one. I would love to decorate the place my own. I love DIYs and I could do a lot of cute things for the wedding. But I insist that the chairs must be white and the sashes must be made of organza, just love it!

About the photographer, it is very very important, cause it is the only memory for this event! After the wedding I will send the wedding photo to everyone who attended the wedding, that is soooo great!

Post # 11
7293 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011


1. Guests

2. Location

3. Budget



1. Cake

2. Photography

3 Drinks

Post # 12
7312 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

Highest priorities:

1. Venue/location

2. Food and drinks

3. Looking and feeling amazing

4. Photography


Lowest priorities (aka Things we totally eliminated):

1. Cake

2. Transportation

3. Following tradition for the sake of tradition/ Giving a crap about what other people may think of our decisions

Post # 13
6065 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

Oh this is a hard question!

Most Important (not in order- these 4 things are all super important to me)

1. Guest List (having people we truly want there, rather than should have there)

2. Food/Drink

3. Beautiful Music/Energy/Mood

4. Photography



1. Ceremony Explanation Cards

2. Save-The-Date Cards (we didn’t do them)

3. Candy Buffet

Post # 14
165 posts
Blushing bee

Most important:

1. Venue

2. Food + drinks

3. Looking PERFECT



Least important:




Post # 15
565 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Most important to guests:




Dress and Bridal appearance

I think one thing I have always noticed that  set the tone at  weddings are the food/ music and atmosphere the bride and groom creates.  If it’s obvious they are completely lost in the moment and in love, everyone notices and the mood of the party is so much more relaxed and light. If the bride shows how stressed she is or seems to be bossing mr. groom around, it can create some tension.

Least important to me:

Transportation- I am not willing to spend hundreds to thousands to arrive in style, guest’s won’t even be seeing me or Fiance getting out of our cars anyways. If I had had a larger budget I probably would have for the heck of it though :p

Flowers. – We are having real flowers but we kept it simple with roses and stephanotis’  . Only getting the bouquets /bouts  for bridal party and two arrangements for mantlepiece and guest book table.

chair covers. – I was SO tempted to buy chair covers to cover up the horrible metal folding chairs at my venue but am on a budget and couldn’t justify jipping people on food or a DJ so I could have pretty chairs for pictures.


Post # 16
2775 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Top priorities were food/booze and photography.

Lowest priorities were paper products and transportation.

The topic ‘wedding values: what is MOST and LEAST important to you?’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors