Wedding Venue Dilemma

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
668 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Get married when, where, and how you want to regardless of what others say. This is your wedding and your chance to creae memories that you will cherish for a lifetime. A wedding (in American/western cultures) lasts only a day—and that particular day is all any couple has claim to. FBIL doesn’t get to forever keep a place as “his” and he needs to get over himself and stop being so selfish! If someone I knew/loved wanted to get married at the same place I did, I would be delighted to go back to a special place and make even more awesome memories there! FMIL needs to butt the eff out! There is no need for you to compromise your dreams and values because some of your guests won’t participate in an aspect of your ceremony. The world doesn’t revolve around FBIL and his ability to take communion or not! The fact of the matter is that we live in a diverse world and most well adjusted adults are capable to enjoying a celebration for a loved one regardless of religion or culture. 

Post # 4
2649 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@Le_Faye:  If the brother and his wife haven’t said anything to you, I wouldn’t worry about it. Even if they would be put out if you had the same venue, they’re being ridiculous. Did they think the place should have been burned down after they got married there?

Post # 5
6194 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

It seems like your FI’s mom needs to remember that she has TWO sons, not one, and that your FI is the more important when considering his wedding.

Post # 6
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Le_Faye:  I couldn’t take communion at the church we got married in (DH is Lutheran, I’m not), so I think that’s a silly reason not to get married in your church!

And as long as you don’t have the same decorations/menu/everything, I don’t see why you WOULDN’T use the same venue!

Post # 7
267 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

This happened to me. My sister flat out said she didn’t want me to get married at the same venue as her because she didn’t want to be upstaged. I didn’t love the place and only considered it because my GM suggested it, in the end I found another place…That I LOVE and couldn’t be happier.


OP If it’s an issue & you’re not attached to the venue then maybe you could find another place but if you love it I say go for it. 

Post # 8
305 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Did they expect the place to never hold another wedding ever again, just bc they got married there? If you love it, I say go for it.


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