Wedding video invitation trailer

posted 2 weeks ago in Etiquette
Post # 32
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

Also not my thing. I would cringe if any of my friends or family did this. I have a feeling my little brother would do this kinda thing some day lol (aspiring film producer). But you and your guests seem to like it so that’s fine. The main thing that is wayyyy off here is asking for cash gifts and mentioning the reception is adults only. Those are very tacky to do on an invitation (you put this in etiquette after all).

Post # 33
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

It is too cringy, I wouldn’t watch also it’s not etiquette to ask for money. 

Post # 34
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

zupy :  just because they say the watched it, doesn’t mean they did. 

Post # 35
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Busy bee

I was gonna suggest atleast cutting the video atleast in 1/2, but read you’ve already sent it out. 

Post # 36
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Busy bee

Oh and your wedding has came and gone? 

Post # 37
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

Aww, I thought it was cute!  I watched the whole thing and smiled. Good on you for doing something unique. And your wedding venue was beautiful! 

Post # 38
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Bumble Beekeeper

I wasn’t going to say anything, because OP wasn’t asking for advice originally. But since this has turned into a discussion about the appeal of such invitations, and because others may contemplate something similarly “unique” I’ll address the trend in general.

I just think some couples go over the top in trying to set themselves apart. It’s unnecessary to try to score points for originality.  It’s a wedding, not a competition. What makes a wedding most unique and special are the people who are there. What makes a couple most appealing is a sense that they care most about the comfort of their guests as opposed to focusing attention on themselves. Showy stage productions have become an unfortunate trend in all aspects of a wedding from the proposal to the ceremony to choreographed dance number receptions.

It’s particularly inappropriate to dictate that guests not bring gifts and outright tell them to contribute $$$ to a honeymoon. 

Post # 40
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

It’s not common in North American culture to say “I’m not going to watch the video and trash it”. No one is going to say that to your face. But to actually believe 150 people found a DVD player and watched 4 minutes of that is on the delusional side. Of course everyone’s going to tell you they watched it. That’s just courtesy. 

Post # 42
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Bumble bee

Definitely cringey and a bit try-hard. I knew someone else who did something similar, but they just plastered the link all over fb. Not sure if that’s better or worse than a DVD lol.

Post # 43
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Helper bee

I love that you did something that was right for you and your wedding. You know your guests, they are your friends and family! 

Post # 44
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2018

I thought this was very cute and creative! I’m personally not that creative so it would look odd coming from my FI and me but if you are a creative, artsy type person then this is perfect! I’m sure your guests loved receiving this in the mail because it’s so different! Good for you for thinking outside the box 😊

 

And I just want to say that I’m so sorry that so many people are being rude to you. I’ve noticed a lot of snark and rudeness here lately and I’m not sure why people feel the need to put others down. 

Post # 45
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

zupy :  I’m sort of a more reserved person so it’s not what I would choose, but it’s really cute and it looks like you guys had fun. It’s definitely of a particular taste, but I know plenty of people who would do something like this. I can’t imagine receiving a DVD and not watching it. I might have just used the link but I would definitely want to see it no matter what it was. I’m here in the US and I think it’s so weird that people are saying they wouldn’t watch it. To each their own, I guess?

I have sort of a different question. Why did you choose to do it in English? I only ask because the printed invite is not in English. Sorry if my question is ignorant, I’m just curious. 

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