Post # 1
So, I would love for us to write our own vows for our wedding day… BUT I’m a anxious freak when it comes to talking in front of people! Literally, freak. I even break into a cold sweat and my voice starts cracking whenever I have to say a speech in front of a class of 40 students. I feel pretty silly I’m like this. But I reallyyyy want to say vows at our wedding 🙁 We sent out about 175 invites, and if i cant even speak in front of 40 peope how would I in front of a church full! FI says whatever I decided to do (vows or no vows) he’s completely fine with and he understands. I feel like its much more personal and meaningful if we did vows, but on the other hand, I’d rather not faint :/
Did anyone else have trouble with is? Tell me I’m not the only freak! What did you do?
Post # 3
I found a bunch of wedding vows online and then made our own out of a bunch of them. Our officiant rent them to us and then we repeated them and it worked out really well. I HATE speaking in front of people too and I had no problem doing vows this way.
Post # 4
I get a little nervous talking in front of crowds too, but I had to take a public speaking class for my GE requirements and I’m so glad I did.
The number one thing I learned is that you need to go into the situation knowing what you’re going to say and having practiced! It’s super important to practice, especially if you’re going to say something as personal and important as your vows. So practice a hundred times over.
The next important thing to remember is that no one is sitting on the edge of their seat, waiting for you to screw up or stutter, and if/ when you do, no one is going to jump up and say, “Hahaha!!! You totally screwed up your vows! You suck.” That’s just not going to happen– people don’t even really notice when you mess up things like that. Just remember that and you’ll be fine.
It sounds like doing your own vows is very important to you, and I think you need to face your fears and do it! You want your wedding to be everything it can be and the ceremony/ vows are such an important part! I don’t think you’ll regret writing your own vows, but I think you will regret it if you don’t.
Post # 5
more power to you, i would freak.
im 4 months out and have already memorized my vows, i cant imagine having to write my own and remembering them. so i found some i really liked and memorized them! and i will say them over and over for the next 4 months because i know i have a horrible fear of being in front of people
“i G take you A to be my husband, I promise to be true to you in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health. I promise to love you and honor you all the days of my life”
ha still got it.
Post # 6
Ask your officiant for examples.
We used one that was already “pre-set” and changed a bunch to make it our own. We didn’t want the pressue of doing our own vows from scratch, and this let us have the best of both worlds. 🙂