Wedding vs Eloping

posted 3 years ago in Venue
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

@future-mrs:  haha depending on where you live $10-15K wouldn’t get you a Sweet Sixteen, let alone a wedding!

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2024

My first wedding was very nice and ended up costing about $15k, that ended in divorce but if my current SO & I ever got married I wouldn’t have a big wedding again, it was too stressful and I’d want something way smaller or just elope.

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@future-mrs:  If I could do it over, the only thing I would change is my dress; I would’ve gotten something much more comfortable.  However, I had a fairly modest budget compared to some brides ($12k), but we had already purchased a house, had 6 months emergency savings, and no student loans.  If I didn’t have a good deal of savings and a home already, I probably would’ve just eloped.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

To be honest, I really wanted to elope. However, my grandparents REALLY wanted me to have a big wedding (and wanted to pay for it) so we did. It was one of the best days of my life! Everything was beautiful, it was great being surrounded by people we enjoy, my dress was pretty, etc. However, if I could have a do-over I probably would elope.

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

@future-mrs:  Yup.  We spent 17k and had 165 guests, and it was so amazing.  We love all our extended family members and have a bunch of great friends spread all over the country, so to get to hang out with all of them for 3 days was absolutely priceless.  

Post # 8
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Helper bee

Wedding. I always liked the idea of elopement, because I’m not a super fussy and party person. But I couldn’t imagine not spending that day with my closest family members. So really, my dream was a small, intimate, family-only wedding, which is basically what we are having (well, kinda… including both our families we are already at almost 80 people. Sigh.)

I keep having to remind myself, though, that at the end of the day, it’s just a party. Especially when I start to get stressed that if I don’t have a flower arch or chiavari chairs my marriage will be illegitmate. 😛 

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Wedding. We spent much much more than the $$ range you listed above for only 87 guests, but it was incredible. I HATED planning and talked about dropping everything and just running off to marry my love, but looking at the photos now, I’m so happy that we got a swoon-worthy wedding. And my husband is happy that we got to bring together all of our friends and family from both coasts.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@future-mrs:  

My elopement cost me nearly 10K and that includes honeymoon. We married an exclusive resort.

We are renewing our vows because of some disappointing things that happened on our wedding day, as well as soothing my parents very hurt feelings. My husband and I underestimated how angry my parents would be.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 1997

I would have been perfectly happy with eloping (going to Vegas was my suggestion), but it was valuable to DH to have his family there – especially his grandmother. Additionally (insert eyeroll here), DH thought it would be “more profitable” to have a traditional wedding. 

So I guess it comes down to what matters to you and your SO. If we could go back and do it again, I would STILL be happy to elope in Vegas! But I would still have a traditional marriage if that is what mattered to DH again.

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