Wedding website as 'Save The Dates'?

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
97 posts
Worker bee

I think they probably will. I would, I definitely think they will expect to be at the ceremony as a minimum. I also think you will find people offended at only being invited to the reception.

Post # 3
1067 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I did electronic STDs through and it was only $30.  It was actually nice since they keep track of who you sent it to and who receieved/didn’t receive it.  

There are lots of designs to choose from and you could do a separate mailing list and STD for those only invited to the ceremony, and do another for those invited to both.

Post # 4
2264 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

amelliafay:  People will absolutely think they are invited to both. I also think you should also not tier your reception so that only some people are fed.

Post # 5
1902 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I think it would be pretty awkward to be directed to a website listing details for all of the wedding events, but only be invited to certain ones.  It would be the same for the rehearsal dinner.  If you were only having limited guests, you would just send invitations to those invited.

Post # 6
1790 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I ordered 150 STDs from and only paid $49. I found a lot of coupon codes online that gave me free shipping and 40% off. 

To answer your question, yes people will assume they are invited to both the ceremony and reception.

Post # 7
1499 posts
Bumble bee

For sure, they would assume they are invited to both. I don’t believe in tiered invitations either. If you can’t afford to feed and host 100% of your guests, you cut down the guest list,

Post # 8
3735 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

amelliafay:  I waited for a Vistaprint deal and got 100 STD postcards for $13, including tax and shipping. If you can wait, scour for a deal like this.

Post # 9
6455 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’m confused about how you are using a website for STDs. Are you sending an email that directs them to the website? Otherwise, how will they know that they are supposed to look at it. I don’t think you should publicly post information about all of the events if all of your guests are not invited to all of the events.

Also, if I was only invited to the dance portion (and not the ceremony or dinner) I would likely decline.

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