- 5 years ago
So I have a mini destination wedding coming up with a whole weekend of events from my bachelorette party, to Bridesmaid or Best Man luncheon, spa day, rehearsal/dinner, and of course the wedding!
My question is this: with 8 BMs + Maid/Matron of Honor, how do you ensure you are spending time with all of them semi-equally?
I am rooming with my Maid/Matron of Honor and sister for the whole weekend, and I am also treating my Maid/Matron of Honor to a longer spa package as her gift from me, so we’ll be together at the spa day as well as in the rooms. For the rehearsal dinner, I have a super awkward family dynamic, so rather than have a head “family” table, I was going to sit my parents apart with their respective sides of the family, and sit his parents with their immediate family. I dont want a sweetheart table because I want to spend time with everyone, and think dinner would be a prime opportunity for Fiance and I to sit with a few members of our bridal party.
I was thinking myself and Fiance, my Maid/Matron of Honor and her Fiance (also a groomsman), two of my single BMs who dont really know anyone else and dont have dates, and then one of FIs best friends (a groomsmen) and his girlfriend who are both in the military so we dont see them often. (Total of 8 seats at the table)
But, I started thinking about it- should I switch my Maid/Matron of Honor and her Fiance for another Bridesmaid or Best Man and hers?? That would even up the time more maybe, but I dont want my Maid/Matron of Honor to feel slighted, as she really doesnt know the rest of the bridal party except through me/wedding events. I think she’d be more comfortable sitting with me.
**I am for sure doing assigned seating for many reasons. Thanks in advance for your thoughts!