Post # 1
I am having a small wedding (under 50 people) in a fairly small space. Also, aside from a few of my girlfriends (and myself!), none of our guests actually enjoy dancing, at least not that I’ve seen – maybe they would at a wedding, I don’t know. So, we’re leaning on the side of having no dancing.
Bees who have attended/hosted weddings with no dancing – did you/your guests have a good time anyway?
Post # 3
@toelopeornottoelope: Last year I went to a wedding where they had afternoon tea rather than a sit down dinner. Then we all went home. It did seem a little anticlimactic
Post # 4
I went to a wedding where the only dancing was father/daughter, first dance, and gangnam style. For the first hour, there was a photo booth, but after that, there was nothing to do but stand around awkwardly. We ended up wandering the building for a large part of it. We would’ve left, but FI was a groomsman.
Post # 5
I didn’t miss it, buti hate to dance
Post # 6
Dancing is essential to me to have fun. The last wedding I went to was awesome because there was a DJ and we all danced. There wasn’t a dance floor, just an uneven barn floor, but that didn’t stop us at all.
Post # 7
I have had a good time at a wedding without dancing. But, that was because I had close family to talk to. It seems like people might just leave after the meal?
Post # 9
I enjoy dancing, but I like socializing and hearing people talk a lot more. A wedding that features music but no dancing is like a breath of fresh air for me. I’ve attended a few like this and they have all been classy and wonderful.
Post # 10
@sweetbutdemanding: We were thinking people would just talk and mingle after the meal, and maybe have a bonfire later on. Not sure though, still trying to decide whether to have dancing!
@weddingmaven: What kind of music did they have? 🙂
Post # 11
It was boring. It didn’t feel like a wedding, but rather a 50th birthday family dinner or something like that.
Post # 12
If your crowd isn’t into dancing then they probably will have a better time socializing. I know that one side of my family rarely has dancing at weddings, everyone talks for hours and stays as long or longer than conventional weddings with dancing.
Our wedding is small, roughly 24 guests. We’re going to have music that people may dance or not as they choose. If they want to dance, great., but I’m either going to go the ipod route or have a carefully chosen DJ that understands that urging everyone to the dance floor isn’t appropriate for our small crowd.
Post # 13
@toelopeornottoelope: Music varied from live instruments, ie a string quartet or jazz group to a DJ playing background music.
Post # 14
@toelopeornottoelope: I can’t really comment as I’ve never been to a wedding without dancing but TBH I would like to for something different. It can be sometimes a negative having daning, as you can’t talk to people very well, depending on the setup and like you say not everybody likes to dance. There wasn’t many at ours that danced but I made up for it as I love to dance, which is why I had it but TBH other than me I may have made the same decision as you.
Post # 15
I think that would depend on what kind of wedding it is, how sociable your guests are, and if there is something else to do during that time. I think it should be fine if it’s an afternoon reception, with say, lawn games for people to play. If there is no music and people are just supposed to stand around and do nothing besides make small talk, it could get boring very fast, unless your guests are particularly chatty and know each other very well.
I say, if you and your friends enjoy dancing, then go for it. Our DJ told us that it is the bride and her bridal party who more than anyone, have the ability to set the tone for the dancing, and the general energy level of the room. Liquid courage always helps 😉 but is not necessary.
Post # 16
The only wedding I’ve attended without dancing was when two of my friends got married. They had the wedding at the groom’s parents’ house, and it was a morning ceremony with lunch, and hanging out in the afternoon (more like a picnic kind of feel and most people left around 4pm). It was a nice day and the ceremony and lunch were great, but it wasn’t like any other wedding I’ve been to, plus I love the dancing part of weddings. But if your guests aren’t into that, then I wouldn’t worry about it, people will still have a good time, even if it’s a bit different than what they are used to.