- 3 years ago
- Wedding: August 2014
My wedding is exactly two months away! I could not be more excited and happy about everything. My only minor issues so far have been with my crazy MIL but that is a whole other story (I could probably write a screenplay out of it, it’s that bad/funny.) Although everything is going great and I’m laughing off the MIL issues, I can’t help but feel a little pinge of sadness doing this all without my best friend, my mother.
My oldest sister, who is my co-MOH, has done her best to take over that parenting role since our mom passed when I was 20. But three years later and I can’t help but get heartbroken at random times. My mom was my best friend and practically raised me and my two sisters a lot on her own with my dad working long hours. My fiance has been great about everything, really supportive, and even though we’re 23 we’ve been together since we were 16 so he knew my mom really well too. A cute story that I love sharing is that he actually asked permission from her to get me a promise ring back around my 19th birthday…just a few months before she got sick. I know she’s watching over us excited, after all she was the only one that believed me back in highschool when I was telling everyone I’d marry him one day. She’s been with us from the start. Although it makes me happy to know that, it’s hard not to have her physically here at times…dress shopping was bittersweet and on random days it breaks my heart knowing how badly she’d love to help with picking out silly little things like candles. And I really wish I could laugh about my MOL’s antics to her, she’d get a kick out of it.
Has anyone else had to go through planning/having a wedding without their mom? It’s hard for people who haven’t been in similiar situations to understand and my fiance has grown to know and accept that throughout the grieving process these past few years. I feel silly to complain when I know I’m marrying the love of my life and we are in a really good spot in our lives… it just seems that I can’t help but get sad wishing she was by my side during all this. I am hoping seeing so many old family friends, family of hers, etc. doesn’t cause me to break down on the actual wedding day. I would love to hear from anyone who has had any similar situations and how they dealt with them…or even a funny crazy MIL story from those who haven’t! 🙂
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