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I’m twenty one years old and two years ago my father passed away from a battle with lung cancer. He was the light of my life, I was a definte daddy’s girl. It’s been hard planning my wedding without him around. For all of those other brides out there who have lost a parent, I thought that I would share my plans to help you create your own. Here are a couple of things that I am doing to keep his memory alive on my special day:
-When I was born, he bought a beautiful real oyster pearl necklace and stored it in a safety deposit box so I could have it on my 21st birthday. He passed away before that so my Mom remembered to get it out and gave it to me on that day. I’m going to wear that necklace on the day of my wedding and there will be a little explanation in the back of the program so that our guests can see the connection and feel included in his memory.
-My mother burned a specific candle at my great-grandmother, my grandmother, recently my grandfather, and my fathers funerals. We are using this candle as our unity candle. This will also be mentioned in the program.
-I am walking half of the aisle by myself to symbolize the time that he should have been walking beside me. My uncle (who was his best friend) will stand up from his seat half way down the aisle and walk me the rest of the way.
-My Maid/Matron of Honor bought me a charm that I will put a picture of my father in and wrap it in with my bouquet so I can see him there with me. She even suggested that I can put one rose where he should have sat since he was the one that always used to call me Lauren Rose (which is my middle name).
Well, those are just some small things that will make the ceremony special because my Dad will have a presence. I’m not religious, just spiritual so a lot of people say that he will be looking down from heaven on me that day…while I may not necessarily believe that, I know that he will atleast be in my heart for sure.
RIP Kenneth (August 2nd 2009)
THANK YOU FOR READING MY POST! And happy wedding planning to you all! 🙂
Post # 3
@LoLoRose: Hugs for you….
Post # 4
I lost my father as well March 8 2008. I love your idea. My dads brither will walk me down the aisle. His presence will def be there belive that! Congrats
Post # 5
i started crying reading this. Those are beautiful ideas and i think you are doing an amazing job incorporating it into your wedding. lovely….just lovely!
Post # 6
My father passed away right after yours in September. I love all of your ideas. I’m not really doing much because I think I will lose it if I have constant reminders, but I am playing the song “Just Like Heaven” by the Cure play after our first dance so people can come up and dance. We used to dance to that song when I was little. I’m going to have the DJ announce that we would have danced to this song and then have everyone dance
Post # 7
Your ideas are all beautiful gestures. I’m so sorry for your loss, and I know he would be so happy for you. (((hugs)))
Post # 8
I lost my dad as a teengaer I think I’m going to have my mother walk me down the aisle. I’m not doing much else for the same reason Gabrielle123 said, I don’t want to be crying the whole day. I think what you’re doing is wonderful and it’ll be very beautiful. -hugs-
Post # 9
My Fiance and my daddy passed away the same year (2008) so we def trying to do everything we can to make them apart of our day with out making the day a “sad” memorial. thank you fo your amazing ideas. I know your daddy will be there with you on your special day just like mine will.
Post # 10
Thanks for the post 🙂
My father died from lung cancer this past January. It happened so quickly and it’s made wedding planning so difficult. I think I’m going to ask his brother to walk me down the aisle because they were best friends and he reminds me so much of my dad.
Post # 11
I thank you too.. my dad died several years ago but planning my wedding I feel a HUGE hole. Thank you for posting this and I love your ideas. I have a pearl pin he gave me years ago that I think I will wear.
I’m also playing “one sweet day” (jessica simpson and nick whatever her ex’s name is) .. the song came out right after dad died and it hit home. Maybe that’s the dance I’ll dance with my only living blood male relative (that’s not a kid).. my uncle.
Post # 12
May your father rest in peace… hugs for you today and through out every day going forward. Your ideas are wonderful.