Post # 1
So this was my pattern:
OBSESSED–> Hiatus –> eh, i’ll check it sometimes –> OBSESSED for a second–> back to eh.
Do we all take breaks? I see some people are just steadfast and I admire that, lol.
Have you taken a hiatus? What’s your process like? If you took a break, why do you think that is??
Post # 3
OBSESSED (hell yeah! I discovered ring porn)
> HIATUS (waiting for the ring was depressing)
> OBSESSED (got the ring) & KU
> HIATUS (pregnant and irritated with everyone)
> Lurk and hang out on the nesting board, and my facebook group page for the December Mom’s 🙂
Post # 4
@harperlynn: HAHA! That’s EXACTLY what I mean! Okay, thanks for validating my experience. Congrats on the baby <3
Post # 6
I actually had to take a break directly after our wedding. Right after the big day I had this awful sense of “What now?” You spend all this time planning and stressing and organizing (and stressing) and worrying and deciding and spending (and stressing!) and not sleeping, and then in a few short hours IT’S ALL F*CKING OVER. The Bee was my place to come and genuinely enjoy the whole planning process as well as to vent. I literally couldn’t come on here for about 2 weeks because I felt like I had no purpose here anymore. It actually made me a little sad that it was all over.
Now I’m past the sadness phase and in the post-excitement phase, and one day I just logged in and started reading again. 🙂
Post # 7
I woudnt say I’m obsessed. I dont sit here constantly refreshing my page for new topics to post on. But I did try to stay away once and I think I made it for 3 or 4 days before I got bored.
Post # 8
Nope, never have taken a haitus for more than a few days or so. Longest haitus was the wedding/honeymoon. 😉
Post # 9
No, but I have thought about it. I’ve been getting cranky and impatient with the waiting and coming here makes me more impatient sometimes. I’ve actually been spending more time in the pet area and areas like that to get away from the ring porn for a while. I know I should be enjoing this stage in the relationship and when I’m constantly wishing I get cranky lol.
Post # 10
@rusticbee2014: LOL, thank you. Right now I get bored really easily but I’m sure I will come back and cycle again! It’s fun but sometimes its too much!
I have noticed other posters cycling too, so it’s not just us 😉
Post # 11
I took a hiatus of a few months over the summer. Basically, my SO and I hit a rough patch and reading about weddings/engagements/babies/etc was driving me up the wall and I couldn’t stop bringing it up. So I got off of the Bee and just focused on us and our relationship, now I’m back cause we’re way closer to getting engaged and I ordered my dress from Jasmine’s Bridal Shop (I talked to my SO about it first lol he’s fine with it), so it’s nice to have the support of those lovely ladies as well.
Post # 12
I wasn’t on much most of the summer, and I tend to take breaks when there is a little too much fighting going on. I’m just not really into that.
Post # 13
@harperlynn: I know – I think I was just waaaay too obsessed for a while so I burnt out quickly. Now finding balance, LOL.
@FutureMrsJohnson_: Sorry about your rough patch – glad things are better!
@Squirrelz15: I’m waiting too! Maybe that has something to do with it…
Post # 14
@rusticbee2014: I had to take a hiatus. I was very active on the 6months and year+TTC thread. But after my MC last year, I just couldnt be apart of the daily symptoms watch. I’m now 3 years TTC and many failed fertility treatments and I still cant go over to those boards. So for a few months I stayed off WB completely.
Post # 15
@rusticbee2014: I am your twin. Heh.
No reason really, just that I get interested in other things sometimes. But when I’m bored or want to look at wedding stuff I always come back. I also have no friends to talk wedding stuff with.
Post # 16
Discovered WeddingBee—->Posted about my ‘waiting frustrations’ and had a few bees tell me maybe my relationship wasn’t right for me
>Took a hiatus, went to therapy, read self help books, talked to friends
>Came back to vent/complain about more ‘waiting frustrations’ and got more of the same advice
>More therapy, self help books, talking to friends—->Came back with a positive out look and I’ve been obsessed since!
It’s like this…I came to this website and I was not prepared to be told that my outlook was the problem. Then, when I tried to tell everyone it was my SO’s fault…I wasn’t prepared for everyone to be strong for me and tell me I should leave my relationship and find the right guy for me!! haha! But after a lot of soul searching, therapy with my SO and making a lot of changes, I’ve found the Hive to be helpful, and now I’m obsessed!
FWIW: SO and I are preengaged and planning/saving for a wedding. Now that I’ve had some reality checks, things are better, and I have more fun on this site now lol