Post # 1
It seems like every other post I read involves a mention of someone wanting to lose weight, and I just realized that lately certain thoughts have been creeping into my head… “I look chubby in this”… “maybe I should lose weight.” This is insanity. I know that according to standard medical charts I’m in the “overweight” category, but that’s primarily due to all the medications I’m on. I’m also on a very strict diet for medical reasons, so it’s not like I could diet in the traditional sense anyway. But none of that really matters. I’m attractive. My fiancee thinks I’m gorgeous and tells me so many times a day. I think I just have never been exposed to so many woman being so obsessed with their weight. Frankly, this disturbs me more than any troll/circle of snark drama ever could. Ladies, we are all beautiful. Your fiances love you just as you are. Being healthy is one thing, this obsession is quite another. My wish for all of us is that we feel beautiful in our skins, not just for our wedding days, but every day.
Post # 4
@Roux: I would like this post and your comment if there was one.
Post # 5
I can understand why you feel that way. I know I would like to lose a few pounds, but honestly, I really haven’t noticed that many posts like the ones you are talking about.
Post # 6
@CharmCityLady: Honestly, the only person that can make you feel insecure about yourself is yourself. It’s not other people that are to blame for those thoughts that you say are entering your head; if you truly love yourself and feel beautiful as you are, there would be no feelings of self-doubt or insecurity. So please try not to blame others here on WB for that. This is a wonderful community of women that share many common threads when it comes to what they’re currently experiencing in their lives. And for that, we feel a sense of comfort knowing that we can come on here and vent about everything we are going through together, not just our pre-wedding weight issues. As long as you’re happy with who you are as a person, that’s all that matters.
Post # 7
Super AGREE! Ya I could lose a few, but there are times where a lot of the posts regard losing weight and feeling fat make me think, all these girls must think I’m sooo fat. However, I then push it right out of my head and move on.
Post # 8
“My wish for all of us is that we feel beautiful in our skins, not just for our wedding days, but every day”.
LOVE THIS! I haven’t noticed it too much on here but it is seriously a constant thing at work…and I mean constant. All the girls I work with are thin but I have to hear everyday about how they are fat or they wish they could eat this or that but they can’t. I just want to jam food down their throats! Kidding…kinda 🙂
Post # 9
For me, and I think a lot of the brides on here, it’s not about losing weight because we don’t like the way we look, but rather about looking our best. My weight has fluctuated a lot, and when I’m at my thinnest, I hate looking at pictures of me at my heaviest. So the last thing I want is for my wedding photos to not have my proudest self. Plus, it’s an excuse to get healthy and do all the things I should be doing anyway (exercising instead of spending all my time sitting on the couch reading WB, for one).
I haven’t noticed people disparaging their bodies or trying to fit into an ideal “shape.” I think we’re all just trying to be our personal best, and everyone seems incredibly supportive of all the different shapes.
Post # 10
@Miss OBG: I couldn’t have said it better myself 🙂
Post # 11
Sorry, you feel that way. It sucks that the media makes it seem like you have to be thin or you have to be this size or you have to look like this. I say, screw them! All that matters is that you feel good about yourself and your fiance loves how you look. Half the the stuff out there is now digitially enhanced anyway. So they are trying to get us to achieve something that is probably impossible?? Yeah, it doesn’t make sense.
If you see another post about losing weight, just ignore it. I don’t think they are telling everyone to lose weight because they need to. I think they are losing weight for themselves not for anyone else, except for their wedding or husband or family. So don’t let it bother you.
Post # 12
I think the Bee does a really good job in providing a supportive and helpful community. There are so many aspects of planning a wedding and wanting to be healthier (and sometimes that includes losing weight) is part of it.
So I don’t think you can quite blame the Bee for making yourself feel self-conscious, because we really try not to have a negative attitude towards our bodies, let alone someone else’s.
Post # 13
I really can’t think of any boards like that. Just because we’re not afraid to say that dress A is more flattering than dress B doesn’t mean there’s a huge push to lose weight…
Post # 14
I think what the PO is trying to say is that being around other girls who are talking about their own weight is causing her to think about her weight, when maybe she didn’t think about it very much before WB.
WB is doing something similar to me. I keep thinking maybe my simple wedding should have more this and that, because I keep reading the wonderful ideas that other girls have.
like tonight’s blog post on what to package your invitations in. I was like “there are inner envelopes? why? that’s stupid and bad for trees!” then a few minutes later, I was like: “maybe I should have inner envelopes….. or ribbons….” oh no, I do not need to make my invitation process harder and more expensive! stop reading! stop looking at the pretty pictures! oh, but so pretty……
I’m not pointing blame at other people’s posts. and I don’t think the PO was trying to blame anybody either.
Post # 15
oh yea, and she’s also saying: calm down! don’t be so hard on yourselves with your weight! love yourself!
Post # 16
I see where you are coming from. who cares what people say on here. Girls go insane about looking perfect on their wedding day. even if they already look great, they want to look better.
And here all brides come together, so of course it’ll be talked about a lot.
On the other hand, you control which posts you read and which ones you don’t. If you are becoming insecure start reading more positive posts. or post inspirational posts yourself for others to read. they may learn a lot from you. You sound very secure to me, knowing your Fh thinks you are beautiful just the way you are is huge. Girls hear it but don’t always believe it, but you do, and that’s amazing!