Weddingbee is supposed to be supportive, right?!

posted 3 years ago in Weddingbee
Post # 3
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305 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

It just depends on the subject of the post. It’s still the internet, so when you irk someone it’s easy for them to come at you.

Post # 5
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1157 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@Chicagochic: Usually when a post starts with “I hope I don’t get flamed for this.” They are basically asking for it. But I have seen some where the OP is honestly going through an issue and is seeking help and ends up getting attacked. I think that is horrible. 

If good advice cannot be offered in the end, we should just move on to the next post

Post # 6
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6510 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’ve always found the bee to be supportive. I don’t always get the answer I want and I’ve had people disagree with me but overall I find other bees to be very supportive. Just because someone doesn’t agree with the OP doesn’t mean that they aren’t supportive.

The bickering I typically see happening occurs when someone asks for advice or an opinion and they don’t like what they are hearing. They keep making excuses and telling people off- why even come for advice if you won’t listen to it, ya know? There are occassionally snarky responses but I think overall the bee is a very supportive environment.

Post # 7
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2720 posts
Sugar bee

I am generally supportive and neutral unless someone is just flat out wrong in my opinion. 

ETA Some people post intentional to be mean so others call them out on it. Just the other day there was one where this girl was all like, “It’s not a honeymoon unless it’s immediately after the wedding and ha ha ha they’re going to Disney for their honeymoon.” She was just being mean and got the wrath.

Post # 8
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289 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@Chicagochic:  I feel like sometimes people are unfairly ganged up on, but since you’re speaking so generally I’m hesitant to agree with you. I actually see more threads where the OP is attacking a poster for rightly criticizing their behaviour than the other way round. If the OP is being unfair or wrong then I don’t see why bees shouldn’t critcize them. 

 

Post # 9
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6510 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Just wanted to add– it seems like recently some of the popular explosive topics have been coming up. Some topics just really seem to set bees off! 

Post # 10
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2537 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

There are certain topics on weddingbee that get people irritated.  Registries, circumcision, breastfeeding, birthing choices, dollar dances, etc.  You can usually spot them.

Post # 11
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455 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@Chicagochic:  I agree, with you. I wrote a post awhile ago and it was closed because you can’t  bash the WB site. I would just steer clear of those threads that are going south, and when someone tries to come for you- IGNORE IT! I’ve been caught up multiple times lashing back because IRL I’m very outspoken and will tell you how I feel in a heart beat lol.

 

Post # 12
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1361 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

This same thread is seriously started like once a fortnight, I swear.

Weddingbee is honest to goodness one of the most tame places on the internet. Even when people argue they’re generally polite.

I don’t understand how anyone thinks this website is less than amazingly friendly!

Post # 13
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1140 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

i def agree people can be too rude or ignorant towards the poster. i myself have had this happen,and to be honest it has slowed down my need/want to be on weddingbee. i used to be on here 24/7 always posting, and now i dont post as much since im afraid im going to get “yelled” at. silly i know…. but some of these woman need to take a damn chill pill.

Post # 15
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6407 posts
Bee Keeper

Is it? I think of family and close friends that way, but I see discussion forums as meant for information exchange, entertainment, and lively debate!

Post # 16
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1750 posts
Buzzing bee

@Chicagochic:  Sometimes the OP is looking for support in a matter where they aren’t actually right or they don’t have clean hands. They want someone to tell them “Oh, it’s ok. You’re right, they’re wrong”, or something along those lines, and that’s not what they are going to hear because a lot of the people here aren’t yes-men. And, as someone else mentioned, they will keep defending their position even though many people have already given sound reasons as to why the OP is wrong or unreasonable. This usually results in people being more blunt to make their point clearer. 

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