Post # 1
Hello lovely bees!
I’m planning our wedding for late 2014 and have set a date, but I’ve realised I’ll be in the middle of studying during the wedding! my course will finish late October. I also get a study break for the first who weeks of August, other than that its full time study between February and November for the next two years.
My issue is, I’m studying full time and working full time. I don’t know of I could handle a wedding, work and study.
Where I live, its stupidly hot in October, november, December and January – like 40 plus every day.
Do I move the wedding forward to early August (during my break), back to November (when I finish) or keep it where it is?
Do any bees have experience with work study and weddings? Or did you organise your date around it?
Post # 3
Honestly, I too am studying and plan to marry in october 2014 aswell! I will also be in the middle of uni and trying to finish my teaching degree unfortunately.
Im choosing to cut my study load in half for that semester so I can cope with it all. I have no idea how i am going to do it other wise.
I also have two kidlets, aged 10 months, 3.5 and a step son who lives with us week on week off aged 11.
I cannot deffer for that semester as I have all ready taken last year off to have my daughter (high risk pregnancy, issues after birth, establishing breastfeeding and sleep patterns, bla bla)
Something has to give. If you cant cut your study load or work load back for that time, I would seriously suggest postponing the wedding till your study is complete.
At least that way you would have something to look forward to, and have time to plan.
Oh I forgot to ask, what are you studying?
Good luck with your decisions… Its a toughy.
Post # 4
@wifey2be: thanks!! I’m studying urban and regional planning 🙂
i can’t cut back my study load (the course is being funded by my employer) and I also cant cut back on work either.
Congratulation on both your daughter and engagement! I’m thinking if I set a date of around a month after the course finishes it would give me a (small) break between. it would be very hot here though!
Post # 5
I’m in a grad program and will finish 1 week before the wedding. We had a 1 1/2 year engagement and we planned out major projects for breaks and holidays (including this one *spring break).
It’s very stressful for me and often very hard to concentrate. I personally wouldn’t want a wedding to happen during my studies because school takes up all the time I have.
Post # 6
@Brooke1226: Thankyou 🙂
Hon, It sounds like you have a full on shedule. the last thing you need is to plan a wedding on top of everything! you will have a mental break down!
The only way I can see it working is if you get married with an extremely simple ceremony, bugger all guests and a very small no frills party or bbq for your recepiton. What you have to ask yourself is that what you really want for your wedding? Totes awesome if you do, but if you have the dream of the having the big shindig with all the frills and laces, I would seriously consider revising your date.
Where do you live? if its hot after october, im assuming you must be south of the equator too… you wouldnt be an aussie by chance?
Post # 7
I’m doing my masters and working full time. Our wedding is in November, right after my final exams (hopefully – we don’t have the dates yet). I decided to start my masters after getting engaged and picking a date. Yes, it is a stressful time, even now, and it is going to get even more stresful – BUT I am more than confident that I will be able to handle everything with ease. I am a planner and I know what needs to be done when.
You know what your abilities and limits are, and no one else will be able to decide for you if it’s going to be too stresfull or not.
The best advice I can give you is to plan well ahead of time and use loads of lists on what needs to be done.
Post # 8
We got engaged in August, right before I started my last year of graduate school. We planned the wedding for October since I will graduate in May. I figured I would get all the big stuff done before I graduated and then I would spend the summer working on the DIY projects and details. I’ve been able to get stuff done, but it’s really hard. I’m currently working full time, going to school full time, and I’m doing my internship, which means I’m technically working 7 days a week. I was lucky that I could take online classes this semester, which helps, but now I’m finding that I just don’t want to do anything since I have things coming at me from all directions. I think I’m getting overwhelmed easier than “normal”, non-student brides.
I would suggest you definitely move the wedding to one of your breaks. It will be hard, but completely do-able, and you’ll be happy to not study during your wedding weekend and thankful for more time to plan. 🙂
Good luck! It’s a hard road, but it’ll be worth it!
Post # 9
@wifey2be: I most certainly am an Aussie! I live in Alice Springs, NT. Where are you from? I spoke to FI today and I think we’ll move it forward to the break. Which will be early August and won’t be too hot here.. Being in the centre of the country, weather controls so much that we do!! We are planning on a small wedding, about 30 people with a cocktail reception at our house, under our patio area. I’d love to hear your plans!
@blastkiss: lists are my saviour! moving it forward to the break means wedding prep will be crazy, but I’ll have some time off after to enjoy being married 🙂
@kcr526: wow! You have such a busy schedule! Enjoy planning your wedding 🙂
Also, sorry about the late rely, FIs family have been in town visiting 🙂