Post # 1
I’m getting married next year and I’m about to say forget a wedding because this is so freakin expensive!! I’m leaning towards going the courthouse, go on vacation, come back and have a huge party!!! I haven’t helped plan a wedding before and I didn’t know so much was involved and truly how much money it is for one day!
Post # 3
It is ridiculous! However, also consider how important the wedding itself would be to you.. will you feel like something is missing if you don’t celebrate with family and friends (you may or may not, I’m just urging you to think about it!). If you still have a party, that isn’t too different from having a reception, really.
If you do decide to have a wedding, there are a lot of ways to cut costs, like DIY flowers, and cheap venues. There are also some options that you might think are expensive, that are actually much less than a traditional wedding, such a small destination wedding, or a cruise weddingmoon.
Post # 4
@Blubandit85: I think that is an awesome plan! Courthouse, vacation, then a casual party!
Post # 5
@Blubandit85: giiirrrrrlllll!!!! tell me about it! I wanna give up now but im 101 days out….so im staying strong. Its all fine and dandy til you get to the small items. Those things add up!!!!
Post # 6
Yeah it’s a boatload of money! I would just think to yourself, in five years.. what will matter more. The memory of having the wedding you wanted, or the thousands you might have in the bank?
Post # 7
- Wedding: September 2015 - Historic Chapel
@Blubandit85: Tell me about it!!! I was thinking the same thing when I first got engage. Going to the courthouse would be so much easier and inexpensive. But after careful consideration I decided I didn’t want to miss out on the whole experience, so we decided to be engage for two years that way we would be able to get everything we actually wanted. Also what really helps us is that we are having a small intimate wedding, only 30 people including FI and I, this helps with othe overall cost big time!
Post # 8
Glad to hear fellow bees agree. It wouldn’t be so much if the media and society didn’t put so much effort onto it and brainwashing girls into thinking they need all the lavish expensive things. It’s so materialistic!
@Blubandit85 I love your idea too! It sounds fun and totally stress-free. BUT, don’t do anything you might regret. I went back and forth between a DW, eloping, small backyard wedding, big wedding, and landed on a medium wedding on a budget. I didn’t want to look back and regret not having somewhat of a wedding and not inviting all my family and closest friends.
You can easily do it on a budget. Follow the posts on here; tons of great cost-saving ideas. I have a girlfriend who is getting married 2 months before us and she asked me the other day, don’t you wish you could elope? It was sarcastic, but it’s a little true after all the decision-making and money-spending. Best of luck to you!
Post # 9
The longer we plan this wedding the more I want to elope. Things are so much more than I thought they would be! We’re doing a ton of DIY and are picking very affordable vendors. Our costs is technically low-average for this area with our amount of people (paretns are paying, which we are very thankful for, but they won’t budge on the list) but it is way more than we orginally planned.
Post # 10
- Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall
Don’t get sucked into what the wedding magazines say you “have” to have, and you can stay within a pretty fair budget! I.e. we skipped favors and nobody cared. And then look to the internet for DIY ideas and other bride’s advice for bargains. For example, lots of couples pay thousands of dollars for flowers, but we DIYed (thanks sister-in-law!) flowers bought in bulk from Sams/Costco/grocery stores and it ended up less than $200 for all bouquets, boutonnieres, and corsages. Look for city owned venues (i.e. parks; ours was a city-owned golf course with a gorgeous pavilion that rents for $500, and caters food for $14/head). That left us enough money to splurge on things we really wanted, like a higher end photographer and my dream dress.
Post # 11
@Blubandit85: I understand. We planned our wedding for 7k. We didn’t have any diy, we had fresh flowers, great food, an awesome venue, top quality photography. I made it my mission to research and find awesome deals. You can plan an awesome wedding with less money. I recommend coming up with a budget, and listing things that are important, and going from there.