Post # 1
So on a previous post I had mentioned how FI and I were torn between having our wedding in AZ where we live or in CT where our entire families live. We’ve since decided to have our wedding in AZ because we simply cannot afford to have our wedding in CT. So I’ve been debating on whether or not it might be easier for people to attend if we had our wedding on a holiday weekend. More specifically Easter weekend in 2015 (April 4th).
Most of the family seems okay with it, my family was never super religious and FI’s family is Greek Orthodox and doesn’t celebrate Easter until the following weekend. I know that not everyone gets a long weekend for Easter but many kids have their spring break around then and there’s A LOT of kids in our families and I wouldn’t want them to miss too much school. Many family members stated they would probably make a vacation out of coming here anyway, as in staying at least a week. Plus, it’d be kind of nice to have my family here with me on Easter.
I do have some concern that flights and hotels will be more expensive but my FI says that since we’d be giving them over a year in advance notice it shouldn’t be an issue. What do you think? Good idea? Bad idea?
Post # 3
I think ticket prices will likely be higher even if the tickets are purchased a year in advance.
I personally would not travel on Easter weekend unless my immediate family was going as well. So unless we are related or very good friends I wouldn’t be going.
I don’t mind wedding on Labor Day or Memorial Day weekend at all because I don’t really do anything on those weekends but I do have standing plans every year on Easter.
Post # 4
I wouldn’t choose Easter weekend myself but that’s because I’m Catholic. However, if your nearest and dearest are not religious or don’t celebrate it another time, then I don’t see why shouldn’t that as your wedding date especially if you have spoken to your family about and they are alright with the idea. If you’re planning on inviting friends as well, ask them now and see what they say so you have a better idea of whether it works for the people you want to be there.
Post # 5
It wouldn’t work for me because my priest wouldn’t be able to do it. I don’t know if you’re planning to be married by a priest but that is definitely something to consider. Our church has a full day service on Good Friday, two services on Easter Even (Saturday), and three services on Easter Sunday. Even if you’re not getting married in a church, there’s no time in that weekend for a priest to perform a ceremony for you.
Post # 6
I’ve travelled on Easter and the flights were definitely more expensive, so I think thats a valid concern.
Honestly, I would be annoyed if your wedding was on Easter weekend and I had to travel BUT I’m religious and it sounds like your family isn’t. If its just another weekend to them and you do some research that looks like flights won’t be totally crazy, then it sounds like it could work for you.
Post # 7
@LovelyLee: I don’t mind weddings on long weekend. In fact,I prefer them. I don’t have to use a vacation day to travel.
People with greater religious attachment could travel on Thursday night, celebrate Good Friday, attend wedding on Saturday, celebrate Easter Sunday by going to church, then fly home on Monday.
Post # 8
I just went to a wedding this past thanksgiving weekend, which was a 5 hour drive away from my house – never again!! Not only was everything super expensive (hotel, gas.. Not to mention what a plane ticket would have cost) but I only got to see half my family ( the half of the family who’s wedding it was on) but I couldn’t see any other family that weekend because of the traveling (we missed dh’s family, my moms family, my step dads family, etc).
i personally think its a bit rude to have a wedding on any holiday weekend, but I know some people feel differently, it’s just my opinion.
you need to do what works for you and your guests.
Post # 9
Flights are more expensive and so are hotels! I would only go if we were super close or if someone else paid.
Post # 10
@LovelyLee: I’m a holiday-weekend Sunday bride and didn’t think at first it would be an issue for anyone – not considering FI’s brothers who both work in retail annnnd those without government jobs who don’t get Veteran’s day off. Also, schools around here don’t have that day off, either (including our own three children). I felt a little silly for not considering that, but most people are making it work. Unfortunately, the way his oldest brother is making it work is coming alone – without his wife and two children. So, that’s a bummer, but I’m glad he’ll be there representing all of them.
I guess what I’m voting for is – just do it. Your guests will make it or have tried their best to do so.
Post # 11
I wouldn’t mind attending a holiday wedding, unless it was Christmas. I would probably actually prefer it because then I still have two days of weekend left outside of the wedding!
Post # 12
4 of the the last 5 weddings in the family were on the weekends. 2 were on Christmas weekends, 1 Memorial day and 1 was on MLK day. It made it much easier for all for that needed to travel.
Post # 13
I had my wedding on a long weekend (Canada Day) and it worked out very well. My brother has been to quite a few weddings over the Christmas holidays.
Post # 15
Our wedding is Thanksgiving weekend and I’m super excited about it! We are having a get together Friday and the wedding Saturday so I feel like it’s a whole weekend of fun! Yes, flights may be more expensive…but people won’t have to take off work and may be able to drive because they have more time to do it. It also probably depends on your family/friends financial situation. Our social circles and families travel all the time so no one has seemed to think twice about it.
I say, go for it! There’s ALWAYS a reason not to pick a date. Just do what feels right and don’t look back 🙂
Post # 16
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The only thing I would worry about is the fact that it’s a religious holiday. Secular holidays, not so much, especially if they are planning to stay a few days, the flights can be made reasonable.
Not sure how religious your FI’s family is, but the Sunday before Easter is Palm Sunday, which is also a pretty big deal in the Orthodox Church, and that week is Holy Week – my mom goes to services almost every day during Holy Week, and you’re hitting a double whammy. I would hate for people to feel their religious obligations were more important, or for them to feel torn about what they should miss.
Maybe find out when Spring Break is – the school districts usually have calendars pretty far out – because if it’s not over Easter, then maybe you could do it then.
Again, as PPs have suggested, talk to your parents and some of your guests, see what they have to say. 🙂