Post # 1
My fiancee annoys me when he thinks that our wedding savings is essentially a pre-paid visa card, tucked away in a not accessible savings account.
NO we can’t spend out savings on Christmas and “put it back” when we happen to have a better month financially.
Nope the wedding funds are actually not for going out on Saturday night or going out for dinner…
Not that my fiancee would ever touch the funds but he keeps asking me “why don’t we just spend $100 from the savings and then just put it back.”
Meanwhile we have to put a mininum of $1500/month away to even come close to our estimated wedding budget. We couldn’t even begin saving until last month which is making our budget very difficult to reach. If we so much as touch that money for something non-wedding related then we are screwed.
it drives me absolutely crazy!!!!! why can’t he see the bigger picture???
ALSO before anyone says “Why have a wedding you can’t afford..” I actually am not the one who wants the big wedding, I wanted to get married in a small courtyard in New Orleans. My fiancee insists that he needs everyone and their mom there…not me. Plus our wedding is super DIY and pretty much as affordable as I could possibly make it without doing it in my backyard.
End of rant.
Post # 3
I totally get you! We are doing the exact same thing with me putting 3/4ths of my paychecks in to our wedding and honeymoon (and home) account. I think FI asking to take money out of it for gifts or trips or groceries irritates me more since I am the money contributer. He pays 100% for everything else, so I think he thinks that he deserves that money too. But I lay down that law pretty fast when I show him the catering estimate!
Post # 4
MY fiance does the same exact thing with our honeymoon fund! He thinks that he can use it for something else and then put it back. It doesn’t work that way!
Post # 5
Do you have a written out budget that shows where all that money is going to go? Maybe if he sees it is already spent it would help? I’m guessing not though since he has the “we’ll put it back” mentality.
Glad you have it set aside in a hard to reach spot.
Post # 6
I don’t have that problem since we don’t barely have enough money in our wedding savings account to even pay for our first few deposits. I don’t want to get flamed so I’m not going to say much more. We’re going to mostly pay out of pocket as we go along. It’s a little stressful for me to not have a nice “pot” that we’re spending out of, but I do think it will all work out.
Post # 7
- Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge
@bretonvirgniia: I hear you with putting money aside. It sucks. We’re using tax money. And we are also trying to spend the least amount we can. It helps we have family doing our photos and a friend doing our video. It saves a lot of money which would otherwise be expensive. However, we have 300 guests because we both come from big families. Secretly I’m hoping not everyone comes :).